"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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As a guy that missed out on it growing up, feel like its too late for me to be happy.

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Or satisfied.

I managed to finish high school and college as a virgin due to my difficult circumstances. These days I feel like even if I was to go on some wild run where I was sleeping with 50+ girls a year, the past will always bite at me. It's like I will never be happy in life due to all the fun I missed out on growing up. The power of young love, date nights with my girl, and having sex during spring breaks. It is like no matter what I do, I won't be able to find happiness...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It's all perspective my friend. You're doing much better than a person in poverty on Africa
 
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skinnyguy said:
It's all perspective my friend. You're doing much better than a person in poverty on Africa
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I thought about this, how can some people in third world countries be so happy by having much less? Then I found that for years I have had this bull**** hookup culture drilled into my head to where it has ****ed me up beyond repair. It is like no matter what I do, I constantly think about getting a lot of *****. It is not even about the sex itself as much as it is about earning validation through sex. I want to be the hugh hefner but I know that I will never find happiness in that. Even though I will never find happiness in it, my ego has been crushed by being a sexless loser in college to where I feel like I need to have needless sex with as many women as possible. It is like I have to do it but I won't find happiness in it.

I can't change the past but I am afraid that the past has hurt me so much to where I can't move forward either...
 
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The mind cannot find or attain happiness and satisfaction; it keeps digging and digging in this or that direction but cannot be happy. It is good that you realize that a material life of xyz accomplishments and xyz sexual encounters will not fulfill you, otherwise you'd spend the rest of your life chasing an illusion.

What is the problem? The past is gone, or rather it never was. All we have is now. Go do what you want to do, no excuses.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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