article: What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity

[MatureDJ]

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/04/06/style/modern-love-sleeping-with-married-men-infidelity.html

 

[R.U.G.]

Personally, I think adultery should be felony enforced, but I am sure I'm in the minority on that here.

 

[ohrein]

Personally, I think adultery should be felony enforced, but I am sure I'm in the minority on that here.

I agree. Once there are kids in the picture who can be permanently fvcked up by cvnt women OR men, there should be consequences for being a piece of shyt. And I don't think you'll find any guys on here who would disagree that the current laws that protect women (not the kids!) in marriages is completely insane. They can do whatever they like and still walk away with half your shyt in some countries! Unbelievable!

 

[Chev.Chelios]

Personally, I think adultery should be felony enforced, but I am sure I'm in the minority on that here.

it has been and still is in some countrys.. and all its doing is persecuting 100s of millions of innocent people.. for having a sex drive. that and it's the epitome of sexual shaming which everybody grows up with.

outlaw marriage and monogamy society would be much better (;

 

[highSpeed]

it has been and still is in some countrys.. and all its doing is persecuting 100s of millions of innocent people.. for having a sex drive. that and it's the epitome of sexual shaming which everybody grows up with.

outlaw marriage and monogamy society would be much better (;

without marriage and monogamy, we wouldn't have a society. look, like it or not, kids are raised with much better outcomes in a 2 parent household, study after study shows it. If the two of you are down for having fun, no one is married and no kids involved? Pound away but the minute kids are involved, there has to be a higher level of responsibility. If we as a society can't hold ourselves to that higher level of responsibility, then it has to be enforced. Want to know one of the reasons the west is dying? This is it. The hippy bullsh*t, if it feels good do it, free love crap has weaponized women against men. Add on top things like no fault divorce and taking half his crap and you've got a real combustible situation, not to mention the death of the west. And finally, you throw kids into a toxic situation where both parents can't stand each other, one has power over the other and destroys the family? No wonder there are so many screwed up kids who have no idea what commitment is and how to behave like an adult. Where do you think all these screwed up chicks come from anyway?

 

[ohrein]

for having a sex drive

You have a murder drive too but you keep that in check. People seem to be under the illusion that because sex for the most part is harmless fun that it can't also have massive negative consequences, or they downplay it or think that won't happen to them. The idea of pure freedom without responsibility for your actions let's people think they shouldn't have responsibilities for their actions. That essentially puts millions of people in the same maturity level as children. End of the day, we need to run civilisation and that requires sacrifice and consequence. People wouldn't spout Machiavellian bullshyt if we lived in a world where everyone was purely out for themselves. Frankly, they'd probably be dead because they're so used to just riding the coat tails of civilisation without any effort. Some may say spoilt youth but I think there are people of all ages with this mentality. God fvcking save us because the west is dying to this shyt.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

It taught you people don't value what they have and they will make excuses for their bad behavior. Most folks don't know how bad something is until it's done to them.

 

[Chev.Chelios]

"in cultures around the world men have gone to extraordinary lengths to control female libido: female genital mutilation, head-to-toe chadors, medieval witch burnings, chastity belts, suffocating corsets, muttered insults about “insatiable” *****s, pathologizing, paternalistic medical diagnoses of nymphomania or hysteria, the debilitating scorn heaped on any female who chooses to be generous with her sexuality…all parts of a worldwide campaign to keep the supposedly low-key female libido under control. Why the electrified high-security razor-wire fence to contain a kitty-cat?"

 

[Chev.Chelios]

You have a murder drive too but you keep that in check.

you fvck woman because it's fun.

 

[ohrein]

You didn't read the rest, obviously. The principle "do something because it's fun" is a terrible principle.

 

[Fzatf]

I'm with the husbands on this one. If you're not getting it from your wife, get it elsewhere. It pisses me off to no end when women stop caring about a man's physical needs. I went through some of that toward the end of my marriage.

 

[Chev.Chelios]

You didn't read the rest, obviously. The principle "do something because it's fun" is a terrible principle.

i did and it's really not..

but doing something because society tells you to do it is also a terrible principle

whatever man, I'll be having sex orgres with bomb azz stunners, while youre over their telling us to marry trying to pass laws that unable us to do so.

I'm with the husbands on this one. If you're not getting it from your wife, get it elsewhere. It pisses me off to no end when women stop caring about a man's physical needs. I went through some of that toward the end of my marriage.

that's terrible.

 

[ohrein]

i did and it's really not..

but doing something because society tells you to do it is also a terrible principle

whatever man, I'll be having sex orgres with bomb azz stunners, while youre over their telling us to marry trying to pass laws that unable us to do so.

I agree. I think you should do what you want as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else. I'm not telling anyone to marry, I think it's an insane risk. But I would be careful while you're out having orgies. Maybe you'll be fine, maybe you'll get a curable STI or maybe you'll get that new antibiotic resistant gonorrhoea or herpes. Or even worse, 18 years of child support payments. Not saying don't do it, just saying be careful.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You didn't read the rest, obviously. The principle "do something because it's fun" is a terrible principle.

Yeah empty your retirement and go on a 6 month

I'm with the husbands on this one. If you're not getting it from your wife, get it elsewhere. It pisses me off to no end when women stop caring about a man's physical needs. I went through some of that toward the end of my marriage.

It means she didn't care enough about you.

 

[CBear]

without marriage and monogamy, we wouldn't have a society. look, like it or not, kids are raised with much better outcomes in a 2 parent household, study after study shows it. If the two of you are down for having fun, no one is married and no kids involved? Pound away but the minute kids are involved, there has to be a higher level of responsibility. If we as a society can't hold ourselves to that higher level of responsibility, then it has to be enforced. Want to know one of the reasons the west is dying? This is it. The hippy bullsh*t, if it feels good do it, free love crap has weaponized women against men. Add on top things like no fault divorce and taking half his crap and you've got a real combustible situation, not to mention the death of the west. And finally, you throw kids into a toxic situation where both parents can't stand each other, one has power over the other and destroys the family? No wonder there are so many screwed up kids who have no idea what commitment is and how to behave like an adult. Where do you think all these screwed up chicks come from anyway?

If I could like this 1000 times, I would. Especially the last part.

As someone who grew up outside of the US where divorce is extremely looked down upon, ik for a fact that non-monogamy and divorce leads to kids with screwed up thinking about commitment. It's common sense. Divorce and non-monogamy being normal here means kids who go through that experience end up thinking it's normal and imo, it's why people here have f#*k fests for fun without seeing consequences or thinking logically. Can't see it getting any better in that aspect in the west.

 

[R.U.G.]

I agree. Once there are kids in the picture who can be permanently fvcked up by cvnt women OR men, there should be consequences for being a piece of shyt. And I don't think you'll find any guys on here who would disagree that the current laws that protect women (not the kids!) in marriages is completely insane. They can do whatever they like and still walk away with half your shyt in some countries! Unbelievable!

Ironically, that is when the women start to stray; after the kids are born and off to school. Adultry as a crime in NY. No longer a felony, but a misdemeanor. I tried for it, but the PI couldn't find any evidence of it. I would of had her arrested and booked on the spot. I would had been so happy. Alas, upwards and onwards.

 

[wifehunter]

Everyone knows it's wrong, just like stealing and lying. But, they continue to do it anyway. Fools.

It's one of the reasons I screen so hard.

I'd like to find out, beforehand, if the relationship is head for possible divorce.

Because. ...

 

[Chev.Chelios]

Well, ask yourself what might change if everyone knew that women do (or, at least, can, in the right circumstances) enjoy sex as much as men, not to mention nine times more, as Tiresias claimed? What if Darwin was wrong about the sexuality of the human female—led astray by his Victorian bias? What if Victoria’s biggest secret was that men and women are both victims of false propaganda about our true sexual natures and the war between the sexes—still waged today—is a false-flag operation, a diversion from our common enemy? We’re being misled and misinformed by an unfounded yet constantly repeated mantra about the naturalness of wedded bliss, female sexual reticence, and happily-ever-after sexual monogamy—a narrative pitting man against woman in a tragic tango of unrealistic expectations, snowballing frustration, and crushing disappointment. Living under this tyranny of two, as author and media critic Laura Kipnis puts it, we carry the weight of “modern love’s central anxiety,” namely, “the expectation that romance and sexual attraction can last a lifetime of coupled togetherness despite much hard evidence to the contrary.” 21

 

[Chev.Chelios]

I'd recommend to abandon marriage and relationships 100% altogether and just enjoy woman as actual humans. not objects and property to be obtained, locked up, and barred from other men to enjoy.

if some dude locked down a beautiful female all to himself thinking he's covered by God in some legal contract that her fidelity belong to him only until death you bet I'm still going to be running game trying to be fvcking her. and yes alot of wives cheat, don't throw them in prison or stone then because of it xD.

 

[AJ84]

I'm with the husbands on this one. If you're not getting it from your wife, get it elsewhere. It pisses me off to no end when women stop caring about a man's physical needs. I went through some of that toward the end of my marriage.

I honestly agree. Whether you are the husband or the wife. Marriage is the ultimate form of monogamy. If you marry someone and expect them to be monogamous then don't stop fulfilling their sexual needs. For any husband or wife, refusing to have sex with your spouse while expecting them to be monogamous is incredibly selfish and says more about your feelings towards your spouse than the refusal of sex. It says you don't care about your spouses needs in the relationship.
And besides, monogamy means having a sexual relationship with one person. If there is no sexual activity happening, then its technically no longer a monogamous relationship.