"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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article: What It’s Like to Go Through Life As a Really Beautiful Woman

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https://www.thecut.com/2018/04/what-its-like-to-be-a-really-beautiful-woman.html
I never had any trouble getting guys, but I got bored easily and moved on. I should have taken the good ones more seriously. I can see now that they would have been good husbands, fathers, and providers but I’d just drift away on to the next and stop returning their calls.

So I look back over my life and think, What did my looks do for me? They got me a few jobs, and a lot of boyfriends … but what else? I didn’t get married until I was 35 because I didn’t want the merry-go-round to end. One day I realized well if you want to have a kid, you better do it now. Of course all those great guys I didn’t take seriously when I was in my 20s were gone.
My husband was the last decent man standing. He had a bit of a drinking issue, which he’s overcome. There was a time when things were bad and I considered leaving him but I had no idea how to even go about finding someone new because I never, ever, had to pursue a man. I knew I couldn’t cope with that kind of rejection.

These days, since I have aged, when I don’t wear makeup and I gain a bit of weight (which happens often) I pass as normal. As far as men, and anyone under 40 is concerned, I am invisible. They do not see me. I could walk across the street naked — it’s that bad.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Can't say I feel bad. Beautiful women literally rule the world - they are catered to. If it took her 35 to settle down...what the **** was she doing? If a woman is beautiful and is remotely "agreeable" you'd have countless guys that would take care of her for the rest of her life.

Oddly enough these sob stories get so much sympathy too. No one gives a **** about guys who have to break their butt to earn everything.
 

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Can't say I feel bad. Beautiful women literally rule the world - they are catered to. If it took her 35 to settle down...what the **** was she doing? If a woman is beautiful and is remotely "agreeable" you'd have countless guys that would take care of her for the rest of her life.

Oddly enough these sob stories get so much sympathy too. No one gives a **** about guys who have to break their butt to earn everything.
she was on the c0ck carousel until she was 35. she wasn't looking for beta cucks to take care of her...she was looking for alpha/pump and dump guys and that's exactly what she got.
 

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Can't say I feel bad. Beautiful women literally rule the world - they are catered to. If it took her 35 to settle down...what the **** was she doing? If a woman is beautiful and is remotely "agreeable" you'd have countless guys that would take care of her for the rest of her life.

Oddly enough these sob stories get so much sympathy too. No one gives a **** about guys who have to break their butt to earn everything.
She was stringing men along for sex and stretching dinners and favors out of them.
 

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Beautiful women in a nut shell...

"I didn’t get married until I was 35 because I didn’t want the merry-go-round to end."

They know they can very easily get a new man, and a pretty good one to boot. Why would she bother try to build something meaningful with a guy that has this or that flaw when she can easily find a guy without it?

What people fail to realize is that good matches dont come by that often. To find someone you are truly compatible with is no easy feat.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Can't say I feel bad. Beautiful women literally rule the world - they are catered to. If it took her 35 to settle down...what the **** was she doing?
She didn't want to settle down, she only wanted to explore her options.

Anyway, it doesn't sound like she came to a tragic end. She did find what sounds like a decent guy to marry her. She's probably rather be back on the carousel, but oh well, I'm not going to feel sorry for her about that.
 

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I don't blame her for using what god gave her for her advantage. But I also don't feel sorry for her. It is what it is.
 
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