MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Hmm, interesting way of looking at it. But then again, risk your life for a girl to get her a ring as a symbol of ??? what again?Greasy Pig said:I've argued with women for years about rings.
For instance, is a $20,000 diamond ring more valuable than one the man carved from the world's rarest wood which he had to climb Mt Everest to obtain?
In money terms, of course not. But if the ring is a symbol (and that's really all it is), doesn't the wooden ring symbolise a man's devotion more than a diamond he bought at the mall?
I mean, he had to risk his life to get it and then sit down and hand carve it.
Every woman I've asked this to has scoffed at the wooden ring and ALL said they'd prefer a diamond. Go figure.
lolZarky said:who gives a sh*t? Is somebody here planning on getting married? I hope not.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.