article: The Psychology of 'Backburner' Relationships

[MatureDJ]

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/10/the-psychology-of-backburner-relationships/381848/

my opinion: This is about the typical woman rejecting her man at first, but trying to keep him as an option down the line once she decides that her biological clock is ticking and she needs him to "man up". She figures that if she builds up a big enough stable, at least one of them will be available for her to reel back in - and all she needs to do for this is to re-establish communication, invite him over for dinner, and then come on to him, allowing him access to the Golden Vijaya.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Thats when you bang them and leave right after.

I mean I find nothing wrong to do whatever I feel after she did the same, its written nowhere that its her plan that has to be successfully accomplished and not ours.

As long as you dont invest much and it doesnt cost you anything, I dont find to be in some woman orbit to be so bad, there is the passive orbiter like this case which of course is a total different thing than the active orbiter which is the one we talk about often in this forum.