Howiestern said:
A good portion of the article was about the demise of traditional dating. Traditional dating involved the man initiating, planning, and paying for it all.
Its all about women. It pretty much puts women on a pedestal by design.
Its like the man has to hit all the right buttons so he can earn a second date. Fuhk That.
The advent of non-traditional dating has put things back to where they need to be and I see it as a good thing.
It doesn't make any sense to pull out all the stops for a traditional date with a girl you don't even truly know. Its no guarantee that you'll get something in return so why make an investment.
And why are these articles always centered around what the man can do for the woman????
Screw charm, screw planning a romantic date, screw putting much effort into it. Its funny how women in this world want to to be on a level playing field with men, yet bit ch because they aren't getting taken out on traditional dates anymore. Thats women for ya!
I remember the first date I went on after my divorce. I had it all planned out. I showed up at her place and gave her a rose. Went to Outback by her house.....had some steaks and beer.....blew $70. Then had some balcony box seats for a concert at House of Blues.....blew $85 there on tickets and drinks. The weeks that followed this date consisted of this girl playing every flakey a$$ game in the book. Ohh Lord I was a clueless chump. I do thank her for teaching me to recognize a waste of time. All that traditional dating did was waste my time and money. I got nothing from it other than the presence of an attractive female and thats not really worth much. Thankfully I learned quickly and this was the last time I did something so stupid.
your problem is that you fail to see the middle ground of your experience and the article.
You are correct in the sense that blowing money on a date for a girl you dont' know is a very stupid and chompish thing to do. However who said that traditional dating means you have to blow wads of money on a girl?
the article is specifically talking about guys who don't know how to take a woman out on a real date. guys who "hook up" with girls in groups and dont' know how to go on actual first/second dates, i.e traditional dating. the article (to my knowledge) is not blasting people for not wanting to blow money on dates.
Your problem is that you spent money on a woman before you qualified her not that you went on a date lol. I very very much believe in traiditonal dating becase it works. what doesn't work is trying to qualify yourself to a woman by showing how awesome she is even thoughs he hasn't done anything yet to be awesome by giving her stuff and buying her affection.
My first date with my wife was the beach. the 2nd was the bowling alley. lthe third was a cook out. the 2nd date with my first real adult girlfriend was put put golf. I've taken dates to go kart tracks, zoo's, the horse track, dave and busters, ice skating (girls don't believe me when i say i can ice skate i suppose because i'm black lol, i grew up like 1 block from an ice skating rink so I learned and i'm actually pretty good), hell i took one girl on a date, who i ended up quasi dating on just a walk from my car to the river back to my car. that's traditional dating. I'm not saying i never spent money on a girl but if i did it was beucase it was doing something i wanted to do and i included her in it.
you sound like a guy who grew up in church who now that he is grown just goes the 100% other way and becomes (like i did) a militant athiest. just beucase it's the polar opposite of what you were coming from. you need to be at the balance. your disdain for blowing wads of money on women you dont' know is quite healthy. but don't throw the baby out with the bath water.
