MatureDJ
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
article: The Death of Eros
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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That article hits home and eloquently writes on many of the themes we've discussed this year that we're seeing play out in the dating scene and LTR market.
Sad.. if you ask me how social media life has replaced dopamine experienced in many committed relationships. I put it down, though admittedly, I too, am struggling not to give the illusion of popularity on there or chasing likes and followers...
A powerful section toward the end:
Sad.. if you ask me how social media life has replaced dopamine experienced in many committed relationships. I put it down, though admittedly, I too, am struggling not to give the illusion of popularity on there or chasing likes and followers...
A powerful section toward the end:
"Men and women are not interchangeable, and our effort to make them so has only increased the loneliness and disaffection of American life. We cannot have both eros and strict equality between the sexes. Saving one requires sacrificing the other."
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It's a good article. The landscape is wobbly now comparatively speaking to be sure. Tough to guide children as they come of age in this fog created by second and third wave feminism.
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Its tough out there, some people just don't get it
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Thanks for sharing the article. It was a good reading material.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
There's a lot of Truth in this. But the guys here are doing a good job. I think every study he referenced I've seen mentioned here.
And the Attack on masculinity continues. In France they are passing a law saying you can be fined for talking about someone's appearance in public. So much for the city of love.
And the Attack on masculinity continues. In France they are passing a law saying you can be fined for talking about someone's appearance in public. So much for the city of love.
Who Dares Win
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I guess it works only for guys saying that an overweight girl is overweight but not the other way around?
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Everything in life comes full circle and thankfully things are forever changing. I think we are seeing signs that its about to hit bottom and begin to travel back the other way in the direction of a healthier balance.
That is the most encompassing article I've ever read in regards to this topic, the author has a very firm grasp on the current situation. I can't argue against any of it. Its exactly what I see.
That is the most encompassing article I've ever read in regards to this topic, the author has a very firm grasp on the current situation. I can't argue against any of it. Its exactly what I see.
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.