MatureDJ
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
article: The Death of Eros
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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That article hits home and eloquently writes on many of the themes we've discussed this year that we're seeing play out in the dating scene and LTR market.
Sad.. if you ask me how social media life has replaced dopamine experienced in many committed relationships. I put it down, though admittedly, I too, am struggling not to give the illusion of popularity on there or chasing likes and followers...
A powerful section toward the end:
Sad.. if you ask me how social media life has replaced dopamine experienced in many committed relationships. I put it down, though admittedly, I too, am struggling not to give the illusion of popularity on there or chasing likes and followers...
A powerful section toward the end:
"Men and women are not interchangeable, and our effort to make them so has only increased the loneliness and disaffection of American life. We cannot have both eros and strict equality between the sexes. Saving one requires sacrificing the other."
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It's a good article. The landscape is wobbly now comparatively speaking to be sure. Tough to guide children as they come of age in this fog created by second and third wave feminism.
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Its tough out there, some people just don't get it
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Thanks for sharing the article. It was a good reading material.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
There's a lot of Truth in this. But the guys here are doing a good job. I think every study he referenced I've seen mentioned here.
And the Attack on masculinity continues. In France they are passing a law saying you can be fined for talking about someone's appearance in public. So much for the city of love.
And the Attack on masculinity continues. In France they are passing a law saying you can be fined for talking about someone's appearance in public. So much for the city of love.
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I guess it works only for guys saying that an overweight girl is overweight but not the other way around?
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Everything in life comes full circle and thankfully things are forever changing. I think we are seeing signs that its about to hit bottom and begin to travel back the other way in the direction of a healthier balance.
That is the most encompassing article I've ever read in regards to this topic, the author has a very firm grasp on the current situation. I can't argue against any of it. Its exactly what I see.
That is the most encompassing article I've ever read in regards to this topic, the author has a very firm grasp on the current situation. I can't argue against any of it. Its exactly what I see.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.