article: Strong Women Should NEVER Do These Things For a Man — or Anyone Else

[MatureDJ]

https://www.popsugar.com/love/Things-Women-Should-Never-Do-Man-41956067

My opinion: This is excellent advice for a lady to get an early start to her cat collection.

 

[AlphaNate]

This article isn't that bad. This is some of the same advice we give on this forum.

 

[lizardking82]

It is indeed some of the advice that is given on this forum, but it is much more suited for men. Men are supposed to be leaders, women are supposed to be followers. If it fits her, a woman will change herself and anything else to be with a certain man and it would still be OK probably while if a man does that, he's gettin' dumped soon enough.

 

[BeExcellent]

It's a good article from the standpoint of self sufficiency. But what it misses is the need for calibration.

I mean would I miss my daughter's graduation for a date with a man? Um no. Would I skip a happy hour with my girlfriend? Quite possibly if I like him.

I know a very pretty, very fit, very smart woman who gave up her aspirations to be a doctor in order to marry her husband (who is a doctor). Six children & 25 years later she is very happy with that choice...

Because her aspirations to be a great wife & mother were a HIGHER priority than being a doctor herself.

That's what "you go girl" articles always miss...that being a great wife & mother is in itself a great goal worth aspiring to...more important to many women than the whole professional woman thing.

But emphasizing calibration, and domestic aspirations doesn't fit the feminine agenda...

And nobody should put up with someone who becomes a slob. I wouldn't. No excuse for letting oneself go in a physical sense.

 

[zekko]

Can't say I really agree with #1, neither for women or men. I think a lot of times the opposite gender can give you good advice on how to look more appealing. They have a different and unique insight into it. Of course, ultimately it's up to you whether or not you follow it.

Here's an example, I remember telling this one girl she should grow her hair out longer. She had it cut short and while it didn't look bad, men almost universally prefer long hair. She grew it out and she looked much sexier.

 

[The Duke]

A person that goes around trying to appease others all the time will eventually lose their own identity and end up feeling empty, decreased self-confidence, and increased anxiety.

A healthy relationship should be reciprocal in encouraging and maintaining an individual sense of self. When one loses their identity and sense of self they are likely to look to others to validate their own self-worth. As time goes by these types put more and more importance on how others view them. They seek constant reassurance/validation/praise from others in order to feel good about themselves. Behavior changes along with appearance. Everything is done for “show”. These people put on a façade and become a shell of their former self. They keep their real identity hidden under the surface.

True happiness, satisfaction, and confidence is derived from within, never externally from others.

It’s a pretty solid article. It can be applied to both men and women. It would do some of you a lot of good to study psychology and you would probably end up with better relationships.

 

[Urbanyst]

Sounds reasonable to me.