MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 30, 2006
- Messages
- 12,749
- Reaction score
- 5,163
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Shes manipulating you or cheating on you.MatureDJ said:
:crackup: "share feelings"She’s pissed
...
The solution to this is to find out why she’s upset and try to fix it. Sometimes simply acknowledging that you’ve done something wrong is enough to make her calm down. Other times, the only way to get out of the doghouse is to participate in one of those long, heartfelt conversations in which you share feelings.
Yeah, AFC douchebags, give her whatever she demands if she holds sex for ransom, don't toss her out on the curb next to the rest of the trash. She's the ONE!!She’s manipulating you
...
The easiest way to get around this is to give her what she wants. If that’s not a possibility, you’ll have to appeal to her sense of reason. If that doesn’t work, try giving her something similar to what she wants. If you can’t make that happen, you might have to wait it out and service yourself until she comes to her senses.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Mauser96 said:Good find OP.
Here is another.
http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-cruel-things-women-do-to-men.html
Thats the right answer. The funny thing about it is since the guy does not want to put up with any manipulative antics and jump through hoops just to get a piece of azz, He will be called such an azzhole and "not a real man", "he's not worth it" "You can do better" I mean seriously what in the fvck are these Women on now a days that makes them want to make Men go through so much bullsh!t just for sex. I have seen many of your posts Danger and it seems you have dealt with a lot of women, I can relate to your posts. You know how fvcking manipulative, sneaky, secretive, lying they can be man. I, Myself have hooked up with so many Women dude and Ive hung around their apartments and listen to conversations they have among themselves, Oh man... the sh!t they say and hide away from their guys is like the mother of all red pills.Danger said:The solution to your woman withholding sex it easy, when you apply an "equality" perspective to it.
Go get sex from another girl.
Some great advice...She’s manipulating you
Another reason women withhold sex is to get something out of you. When no other methods of getting what she wants are working, she might resort to revoking your sex privileges until you agree to what she’s after. This will usually be a pretty big thing. Generally, she’s not going to bother holding out on you in order to get you to take out the garbage.
The easiest way to get around this is to give her what she wants.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.