"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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article: Online dating leaves middle-aged women in 'single wilderness'

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http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2011/jul/10/online-dating-middle-aged-women

Single women in their 40s and 50s are increasingly feeling that their love lives are over as men their own age use online dating to cherry-pick younger models. But when did confidence and sexual maturity become so unattractive?
My answer to that question at the end:

Oh, I'd say around the time that man invented fire!
:crackup:

One harridan laments ...

"Women are more cautious. It's a shame men aim for the younger age range because women of 45 and 55 are arguably much more sexually mature and able to give a lot more pleasure than, say, a woman of 25."
:crackup: :crackup:

while another one does also ...

Susan Broom is a bubbly woman with a ready laugh who is 48, single, and has now given up actively looking for a man, certainly online, and is not afraid to admit that she does feel the sadness of that.

"I gave up internet dating when I realised it was only older men who were contacting me, which doesn't really interest me. I prefer men of my own age. But a lot of those men my age are only looking at women in their 20s or 30s.
I wonder if this next one was ultra picky in her youth ...

"It can be a full-time occupation when you have to really fight to meet the sort of men that are worth meeting because they are the ones refusing to look at you as a potential date. Because of its 'anything is possible', 'sweet-shop' appeal, online dating just encourages men to cherry-pick their ideal – usually younger – mate. Which is depressing if you're a woman of a certain age."
But of course, it's the mature man's fault, because so many young men are interested in cougars ...

Macmillan, 49, has set up toyboywarehouse.com. Younger men are nowadays desperate to meet older women, she claims, and she has more men than women looking for love on her site.

"We have 26,000 members and growing, and 70% are men. Our battle is to change women's mindset and get women to believe that there are younger men who want what they are, experienced, strong-willed, confident. Men in their mid-40s slow down, women are dynamic and full of energy. We need to match that energy.

"We've found that our most successful age gap is around 10 to 15 years, although we only specify a minimum of one year. We have a lot of happy matches."
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dear Danger,
"Sexual peak eh?"...Oh no please don't start that futile exchange again...lets just say some Guys will Shvag Older Women others wont and leave it there LOL.
 

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These feminist articles and the women who write them can cry me a f*cking river.
 

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The question is: how can you make money off this large pool of undesirable old single women? It's an untapped treasure.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Zarky said:
The question is: how can you make money off this large pool of undesirable old single women? It's an untapped treasure.
Evidently that's the reason that they're so pissed. :D :crackup:
 

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Single women in their 40s and 50s are increasingly feeling that their love lives are over as men their own age use online dating to cherry-pick younger models. But when did confidence and sexual maturity become so unattractive?
Confidence is a male trait. A woman should be self assured enough so that she can function, but confidence is not something I look for when I think about what makes them attractive. Women should be feminine, soft, demure, and vulnerable. There's nothing sexier than that.
 

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I have never met a woman of any age, not a single one, who 1. was not fat, and 2. did not have unrealistic expectations, who did not have the choice to have a fine social life.

The problem is that too many women all the way down to the lowest percentiles in appeal do not consider any men below the 90th percentile worthy. They are welcome to that preference and to live with their cats.
 

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Mauser96 said:
You forgot this gem from the article "A survey this month found eight out of 10 women over 50 think they have become invisible to men."


It is called "hitting the wall" baby, and a major power loss.


How does that feel? Huh? Huh?

They can spend the rest of their lives wishing they made better decisions. Bet it makes them bitter. Probably the same reason unattractive and or fatties are radical feminists.
 

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"Hypergamous B!tches leave themselves in middle aged single wilderness"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maximummax said:
what happened to the real world, why they are online?
can any one answer
My guess...maybe they were getting shot down too much when they'd try to pick up men. So they retreated there, and online you can find a support group of some kind for dam near anything
 

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Young women normally go for older guys, so why when older guys go for younger women the same women, who are not young anymore, complain? Btw who is hornier a younger or an older woman?
 

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Blue Phoenix said:
Btw who is hornier a younger or an older woman?
Definitely the younger, from My experience. Older women tend to want to be my psychiatrist (when I'd never have one Ever, don't believe in them) and tend to be the ones to, fake, orgasms more than their younger counterparts. I have no sympathy for them. Most of them, especially past 35, even, are starting in, or are already in, the throws of, hysteria or loss of mental functionality. They are a Fog by that point, with obliterated minds, and numbed sensuality.
 
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