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article: My Opinion: Most Men Aren’t Husband Material

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1. The fact that having a side chick is so widespread is a major problem.
Our generation simply has a massive gap when it comes to infidelity. Guys see having two girls like a status symbol. On the other hand, if girls do it, we’re promiscuous. The truth is that men who would have a side chick deserve no chick at all.
2. Guys have gotten increasingly demanding with looks.
It’s all too common to hear guys bemoan how they can’t get a hot girl while they themselves bring little in terms of looks to the table. The fact that men, who often look like troll dolls with pot bellies, will demand to have a solid dime is hypocrisy at its finest. They should learn to be more open-minded about looks. After all, most girls I’ve met will give a not-so-hot guy a shot if his personality is good.
4. Statistically, women are more likely to be employed than men.
This means that some guys can’t even put food on the table. Traditionally, that’s their job. While that could suggest more stay-at-home dads, statistics show that women still will also end up doing most of the work around the house, too. So, why would anyone marry someone who’s basically unable or unwilling to contribute anything? If he’s not working and not homemaking, he’s not worth it.
5. Rudeness is at an unprecedented level.
It’s true, and if you don’t believe it, just go on OKCupid and talk to some men. Generally speaking, men who are fine with being rude to women before a date even starts aren’t worth dating, marrying, or even speaking to.
6. Our generation is plagued with the way that we’re always looking to “trade up.”
We trade up jobs all the time. We trade up our iPhones, our furniture, and at times, even our friends. Sadly, our generation also tends to take this attitude with significant others. While this isn’t always a common sentiment, it happens frequently enough that certain guys just don’t realize what they had until they are old, alone, and traded out.
7. Too many men out there have a major Peter Pan complex.
Too many guys out there expect their parents to take care of them. When they’re out of the house, then they expect their girlfriends to take care of them. Unless you have a serious Florence Nightingale Syndrome at work, it’s pretty obvious why these guys aren’t good boyfriend material.
8. The Nice Guy (TM) Complex is strong with too many guys out there.
They’re sooooo nice… until you say no. Then they shriek in anger, call you a “friendzoning *****” and can’t get why you won’t give nice guys like them a chance. NEXT!
9. They’re insecure.
For all the stuff so many men demand, millennial men tend to be exceptionally insecure. This just tends to open up an entire can of worms, ranging from slut-shaming to passive-aggressive behavior. Do women need this in their lives? Absolutely not.
10. Some straight up just lost interest in a relationship.
Some guys feel that there’s only loss to be had by getting into a relationship. They feel like women only want their money, or feel like there’s more to be had by just keeping it at booty calls with multiple women. They don’t want families, nor do they care about anything other than themselves. It’s sad, it’s crappy, and it tells volumes about the current state of how many men out there think. One can only wonder how that will work out for them 30 years from now…
11. Men are way too entitled.
We have to dodge guys who feel entitled to sex. We have to deal with men who think they deserve a supermodel when they have faces that look like feet. We have to deal with guys who call us shallow when we reject them for not even having a job going for them. Eff. That. Noise.
With the “winners” in the current dating pool, who can blame girls for staying single?
Have at it, lads!
 

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I would say every single point is in relation to women having an over-inflated sense of value, causing this disconnection from reality that causes her to reject reality and try to construct her own reality to justify being over-valued.

We have access to third world women, they do not have any status to gain by dating a third world man.

Her trying to justify her thoughts this way, means she is close to accepting reality and is lashing out.
 

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I'm friends with a BPD single mom who knows that she is the cause of all of her problems with men but constantly posts things like this article because she does not want to accept the blame. It is very similar to the guys here that refuse to adjust and adapt, like sanghelios.
Well to be fair, it is difficult to know what one even has to adapt to in the age of information, like good luck with a pre-covid mentality in covid, but at the same time, some guys will find success with the pre-covid mentality but that does not do them any good on the whole.

I would say when a strategy with a woman gets you laid, you immediately have a bias to it, because of how strong our unconscious reaction to getting sex is.
 

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Her opinion is not close to my perception of what reality looks like.

The fact that having a side chick is so widespread is a major problem.
Our generation simply has a massive gap when it comes to infidelity. Guys see having two girls like a status symbol. On the other hand, if girls do it, we’re promiscuous. The truth is that men who would have a side chick deserve no chick at all.
If this were true, there would be no pandemic of male thirst. At best, maybe 10% of men have this going on. The writer of the article is probably spending too much time chasing the top 10% on swipe app and ignoring the rest of the market.

Guys have gotten increasingly demanding with looks.
It’s all too common to hear guys bemoan how they can’t get a hot girl while they themselves bring little in terms of looks to the table. The fact that men, who often look like troll dolls with pot bellies, will demand to have a solid dime is hypocrisy at its finest. They should learn to be more open-minded about looks. After all, most girls I’ve met will give a not-so-hot guy a shot if his personality is good.
It's my perception that men are settling more. Due to an abundance of single men to single women in the 20s/30s cohort, a simple analysis of numbers indicate that men will have to date down on looks more than women will have to do that. Also, single moms are not having a difficult time finding men for sex or even for relationships, an indication of a marketplace heavily skewed towards women.

4. Statistically, women are more likely to be employed than men.
This means that some guys can’t even put food on the table. Traditionally, that’s their job. While that could suggest more stay-at-home dads, statistics show that women still will also end up doing most of the work around the house, too. So, why would anyone marry someone who’s basically unable or unwilling to contribute anything? If he’s not working and not homemaking, he’s not worth it.
Yes, men are more likely to have employment problems. In a lot of ways, this is the culture's fault.

Due to pervasive feminism, women are given preferential treatment at work.

Many male centric lines of work have been declining for decades, such as manufacturing and blue collar work. Females have rarely worked in these industries, either before or after second wave feminism of the 1960s/1970s. A lot of men who as high school graduates in 1970 would have gotten some decent paying blue collar job without pursuing higher education became low wage service sector workers if they graduated from high school after the mid-1990s without higher education. Low wage service sector workers have reduced SMV.

The men who pursue higher education and white collar work get a raw deal as well. This is compounded if they are white men. In white collar environments, white men are vulnerable. As a whole, men absorb more layoffs than women in white collar. When a white collar man gets laid off, he has a longer journey to re-employment than a low wage service sector male. White collar men are sexually judged more upon their employment status, so this is a major SMV hit. It is pretty common for a white collar male to get dumped by his wife, girlfriend, or even casual flings when a layoff occurs.

I have worked in white collar environments where women, especially non-white women, are given preferential treatment on assignments, promotions, and RIFs as compared to men.

On the rare case that a woman gets laid off, her SMV has the potential to increase due to having free time. Men never judge women on their jobs, and a lot of time women's jobs get in the way of their attractiveness. Career obsessed women are often attitudinally unattractive and exhibit behaviors that are turn offs.

These are examples about how male privilege is a myth.

5. Rudeness is at an unprecedented level.
It’s true, and if you don’t believe it, just go on OKCupid and talk to some men. Generally speaking, men who are fine with being rude to women before a date even starts aren’t worth dating, marrying, or even speaking to.
Female rudeness is at an unprecedented with the ghostings, flakings, and entitled behavior that I'm about to examine. This is projection.

6. Our generation is plagued with the way that we’re always looking to “trade up.”
We trade up jobs all the time. We trade up our iPhones, our furniture, and at times, even our friends. Sadly, our generation also tends to take this attitude with significant others. While this isn’t always a common sentiment, it happens frequently enough that certain guys just don’t realize what they had until they are old, alone, and traded out.

11. Men are way too entitled.
We have to dodge guys who feel entitled to sex. We have to deal with men who think they deserve a supermodel when they have faces that look like feet. We have to deal with guys who call us shallow when we reject them for not even having a job going for them. Eff. That. Noise.
With the “winners” in the current dating pool, who can blame girls for staying single?
Number 6 is classic female hypergamy. Women look to "trade up" more than men.

Female entitlement is at unprecedented levels due to women's swipe queues. The average woman on a swipe app now is now pursued by a larger quantity of men and with more zeal than a typical 22 year old female celebrity in the pre-internet era of 1985.
 

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Another woman b1tching about how men have adjusted appropriately to the current sexual marketplace that was created by feminism. LMFAO

That, and the article is good click bait.

-Augustus-
Agreed. Women brought this on themselves. Plus she should know sperm is cheap eggs are not.

I mean she's blatantly describing most women. I mean there are guys like what she described but most would be happy ****ing a pighole.

 

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Here's my take:
1. The fact that having a side chick is so widespread is a major problem.
If girls didn't use sex as a form of power or put out on the regular fulfilling her wife duties, there would be no problem.
2. Guys have gotten increasingly demanding with looks.
Girls have gotten so demanding with looks. Just look at the dating apps where women swipe left most of the time. This is hard evidence that can't be denied.
4. Statistically, women are more likely to be employed than men.
Since Feminism became popular and women being manipulative to male simps, they are always hiring women more for a specific role, regardless if they're the best candidate or not and sometimes merely for positive social perception.
5. Rudeness is at an unprecedented level.
Yes, it is equally for females. Just try asking a harmless question on "how are you doing?" and see the amount of girls that will unmatch you or take several days to get back to you on OLD. If in real life, they tell you you're a creep for asking them a harmless question or just look at you all funny.
6. Our generation is plagued with the way that we’re always looking to “trade up.”
Female Hypergamy projection and nothing more.
7. Too many men out there have a major Peter Pan complex.
Typical Feminist thought process where they don't want to be traditional wives or gf's. They are entitled and want to be taken care of. But this can only exist if they find a beta simp, but then they complain that their significant other isn't a real man. lose/lose
8. The Nice Guy (TM) Complex is strong with too many guys out there.
The nice girl complex is far too few in between these days. They are all nice until you want sex then they get turned off and turn into a b1tch.
9. They’re insecure.
Girls have to use filters these days, constantly post on social media for peer approval, always ask friends for advice and approval for everything, can't leave the house without makeup or their favorite clothes. Never has there been more skin care and make up products and purchases until now.
10. Some straight up just lost interest in a relationship.
Girls will only bang bad boys but don't want a relationship with them. The thought of introducing them to their friends or family never enters their minds. They want different guys for different purposes and as such, can't really have a serious meaningful relationship with any of them.
11. Men are way too entitled.
Girls are way too entitled. All they want is the attention but when it comes to actual realationships or sex, they are either very picky or would rather just have attention of several guys over just one good guy. They want everything their way and don't want to meet in the middle. They want all the guys to exert the effort and focus on them, and when it's not reciprocated, they know there will always be thirsty guys willing to cave into their demands.
 

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She looks like one of those vegetarians with a stack of pizza boxes to the ceiling, like are you retarded
 

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Her opinion is not close to my perception of what reality looks like.



If this were true, there would be no pandemic of male thirst. At best, maybe 10% of men have this going on. The writer of the article is probably spending too much time chasing the top 10% on swipe app and ignoring the rest of the market.



It's my perception that men are settling more. Due to an abundance of single men to single women in the 20s/30s cohort, a simple analysis of numbers indicate that men will have to date down on looks more than women will have to do that. Also, single moms are not having a difficult time finding men for sex or even for relationships, an indication of a marketplace heavily skewed towards women.



Yes, men are more likely to have employment problems. In a lot of ways, this is the culture's fault.

Due to pervasive feminism, women are given preferential treatment at work.

Many male centric lines of work have been declining for decades, such as manufacturing and blue collar work. Females have rarely worked in these industries, either before or after second wave feminism of the 1960s/1970s. A lot of men who as high school graduates in 1970 would have gotten some decent paying blue collar job without pursuing higher education became low wage service sector workers if they graduated from high school after the mid-1990s without higher education. Low wage service sector workers have reduced SMV.

The men who pursue higher education and white collar work get a raw deal as well. This is compounded if they are white men. In white collar environments, white men are vulnerable. As a whole, men absorb more layoffs than women in white collar. When a white collar man gets laid off, he has a longer journey to re-employment than a low wage service sector male. White collar men are sexually judged more upon their employment status, so this is a major SMV hit. It is pretty common for a white collar male to get dumped by his wife, girlfriend, or even casual flings when a layoff occurs.

I have worked in white collar environments where women, especially non-white women, are given preferential treatment on assignments, promotions, and RIFs as compared to men.

On the rare case that a woman gets laid off, her SMV has the potential to increase due to having free time. Men never judge women on their jobs, and a lot of time women's jobs get in the way of their attractiveness. Career obsessed women are often attitudinally unattractive and exhibit behaviors that are turn offs.

These are examples about how male privilege is a myth.



Female rudeness is at an unprecedented with the ghostings, flakings, and entitled behavior that I'm about to examine. This is projection.



Number 6 is classic female hypergamy. Women look to "trade up" more than men.

Female entitlement is at unprecedented levels due to women's swipe queues. The average woman on a swipe app now is now pursued by a larger quantity of men and with more zeal than a typical 22 year old female celebrity in the pre-internet era of 1985.
This little dissection of her stupidity should be plastered on a billboard next to every major highway. Good job.
 

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Most men can't lead even their own lives and yet dreams of leading women into a relationship ?

Worst yet, they have dreams of leading their own future family/children but can't even manage themselves.

Just take a look at all the cry babies we hv on Sosuave to know the truth.

Bunch of entitled men, always wanting to have things fall on their laps.
 

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Most men can't lead even their own lives and yet dreams of leading women into a relationship ?

Worst yet, they have dreams of leading their own future family/children but can't even manage themselves.

Just take a look at all the cry babies we hv on Sosuave to know the truth.

Bunch of entitled men, always wanting to have things fall on their laps.
Sounds like the one one crying here is you.
 

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1. The fact that having a side chick is so widespread is a major problem.
Our generation simply has a massive gap when it comes to infidelity. Guys see having two girls like a status symbol. On the other hand, if girls do it, we’re promiscuous. The truth is that men who would have a side chick deserve no chick at all.
Just because most women don't appreciate sexual variety, that doesn't mean that men have to want the same thing.
2. Guys have gotten increasingly demanding with looks.
It’s all too common to hear guys bemoan how they can’t get a hot girl while they themselves bring little in terms of looks to the table. The fact that men, who often look like troll dolls with pot bellies, will demand to have a solid dime is hypocrisy at its finest. They should learn to be more open-minded about looks. After all, most girls I’ve met will give a not-so-hot guy a shot if his personality is good.
If you're not giving me an erection, why on earth would I want to deal with you? To listen to that mouth?
4. Statistically, women are more likely to be employed than men.
This means that some guys can’t even put food on the table. Traditionally, that’s their job. While that could suggest more stay-at-home dads, statistics show that women still will also end up doing most of the work around the house, too. So, why would anyone marry someone who’s basically unable or unwilling to contribute anything? If he’s not working and not homemaking, he’s not worth it.
Men don't want to have to support a loser. Women wanted equality and so now they can pay for their own food, just like we do.
5. Rudeness is at an unprecedented level.
It’s true, and if you don’t believe it, just go on OKCupid and talk to some men. Generally speaking, men who are fine with being rude to women before a date even starts aren’t worth dating, marrying, or even speaking to.
Plenty of women are extremely rude, including the arrogant biatch that wrote this article.
6. Our generation is plagued with the way that we’re always looking to “trade up.”
We trade up jobs all the time. We trade up our iPhones, our furniture, and at times, even our friends. Sadly, our generation also tends to take this attitude with significant others. While this isn’t always a common sentiment, it happens frequently enough that certain guys just don’t realize what they had until they are old, alone, and traded out.
It sounds like plenty of men have dumped her when they found something better and got tired of hearing her mouth.
7. Too many men out there have a major Peter Pan complex.
Too many guys out there expect their parents to take care of them. When they’re out of the house, then they expect their girlfriends to take care of them. Unless you have a serious Florence Nightingale Syndrome at work, it’s pretty obvious why these guys aren’t good boyfriend material.
So, they expect you to actually do something in return for them putting food on the table? How unreasonable.
8. The Nice Guy (TM) Complex is strong with too many guys out there.
They’re sooooo nice… until you say no. Then they shriek in anger, call you a “friendzoning *****” and can’t get why you won’t give nice guys like them a chance. NEXT!
Some guy called her a "friendzoning biatch". Hahaha. I'd like to shake his hand and tell him "well done". It's a shame he didn't make a video of her reaction.
9. They’re insecure.
For all the stuff so many men demand, millennial men tend to be exceptionally insecure. This just tends to open up an entire can of worms, ranging from slut-shaming to passive-aggressive behavior. Do women need this in their lives? Absolutely not.
I agree that men shouldn't slut shame. We should celebrate sluts, in fact we should build statues of women that have made lots of men happy. But I think what she's really angry about is that men don't want to marry a slut after she hits the wall and is no longer attractive.
10. Some straight up just lost interest in a relationship.
Some guys feel that there’s only loss to be had by getting into a relationship. They feel like women only want their money, or feel like there’s more to be had by just keeping it at booty calls with multiple women. They don’t want families, nor do they care about anything other than themselves. It’s sad, it’s crappy, and it tells volumes about the current state of how many men out there think. One can only wonder how that will work out for them 30 years from now…
It's not that men don't want a relationship, they don't want a relationship with her. They don't want a nagging, unattractive woman that expects us to "put food on the table" (i.e. pay for everything) whilst they do nothing for us in return.
11. Men are way too entitled.
We have to dodge guys who feel entitled to sex. We have to deal with men who think they deserve a supermodel when they have faces that look like feet. We have to deal with guys who call us shallow when we reject them for not even having a job going for them. Eff. That. Noise.
With the “winners” in the current dating pool, who can blame girls for staying single?
"Girls" are not staying single. Women over 30 with unrealistic expectations and a bad attitude are staying single. Forever. I suggest that she buys at least 5 cats.
 
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