MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
article: Men and women who bare more flesh are regarded as less intelligent
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Master Don Juan
I guess I'd better quit wearing my Speedo.
I have had this happen to me. Is it my fault that I am genetically gifted? Nope. My body is naturally thin thanks to my metabolism and I gain muscle easily. But I work damn hard on the stationary bike and in muscle training, so why not show off my hard work?
When people start patronizing me I usually end up talking circles around them and they cant keep up in intellectual convos or debates with me. I guess they expect an in shape black dude to be your typical dumb athlete who plays football or basketball. I fancy myself a footballer (soccer player) tho =D. Cant judge a book by its cover, however stereotypes do hold true in some cases, not all.
To sum it all up:
http://wcsa10.files.wordpress.com/2010/06/hatersgonnahate.jpg
^This basically.
When people start patronizing me I usually end up talking circles around them and they cant keep up in intellectual convos or debates with me. I guess they expect an in shape black dude to be your typical dumb athlete who plays football or basketball. I fancy myself a footballer (soccer player) tho =D. Cant judge a book by its cover, however stereotypes do hold true in some cases, not all.
To sum it all up:
http://wcsa10.files.wordpress.com/2010/06/hatersgonnahate.jpg
^This basically.