article: Liberated and Unhappy

[MatureDJ]

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/05/26/opinion/26douthat.html?ref=opinion

There’s no necessary reason why feminists and cultural conservatives can’t join forces — in the same way that they made common cause during the pornography wars of the 1980s — behind a social revolution that ostracizes serial baby-daddies and trophy-wife collectors as thoroughly as the “fallen women” of a more patriarchal age.

So now any man that wants to be with an attractive woman ("trophy wife") should be ostracized?

 

[Darth]

Well this is no surprise. Women need men to be happy. Sorry, but it's true.

I'm kind of amused at what the author is suggesting though. They agree that a social stigma should be in place rather than anything goes, but rather than go back to the way it was, blame men instead.

Yeah, that'll work.

 

[Da Realist]

I think of feminism in the way one lady told me about relationships. Imagine your job was to sit in place for 8 hours a day and do absolutely nothing. You can't sleep, read, walk around, or anything, but you get paid pretty good. Sooner or later you get bored and you want to do something. That's either where you quit or start causing trouble just to get a little excitment. There are some merits to what feminism did, but at the end of the day you have a lot of women that just want something to do but are too stubborn to admit they have no idea what they want.

 

[Nutz]

We can squabble forever about the choices that mothers ought to make, but the difficult work-parenthood juggle is here to stay. (Just ask Sarah and Todd Palin.) And there are all kinds of ways — from a more family-friendly tax code to a more accommodating educational system — that public policy can make that juggle easier. Conservatives and liberals won’t agree on the means, but they ought to agree on the end: a nation where it’s easier to balance work and child-rearing, however you think that balance should be struck.

Ah, I see where they're going with this. Shift the burden of responsibility of balancing work and family on everyone else. What's that? You can't afford kids because you're single and have low income? The correct response is pound sand, but sadly that's not what will happen. This is going to cause a bunch of liberal spending and social programs so even more women can have their cake and eat it too. Meanwhile the rest of us will have to pick up the tab. No thanks!

There’s no necessary reason why feminists and cultural conservatives can’t join forces — in the same way that they made common cause during the pornography wars of the 1980s — behind a social revolution that ostracizes serial baby-daddies and trophy-wife collectors as thoroughly as the “fallen women” of a more patriarchal age.

Ah, here it comes. Sound the horns gentlemen it's time to blame us guys for women's inability to have their cake and eat it too. I see the point of ostracizing people that are irresponsibly having kids, but it's apparent that stigmatizing people is not allowed if it also applies to women who can't keep their legs closed. After all... GIRL POWER! If they can't go around being loose anymore then they don't want to hear it.

 

[Darth]

These people are unwilling to see the obvious reason for this problem. Why are we unhappy after becoming "liberated"?

Because feminism DOESN'T WORK.

They liberated themselves right out of the happiness of their natural biological instincts, to love her husband and raise kids. Not be a "career woman" and a slut all in one, and get divorced along the way. That's why you're unhappy.

Oh, it's a difficult problem! No, it's a simple problem. It didn't work. So rather than screwing society further by blaming men for your problems, let's go back to what we had, which DID work. I'm talking about real men and sweet, feminine, intelligent women who want to make their husband happy in return for love and protection.

I was surfing the net one day on a dating site. Came across this gorgeous Russian woman. This is what she wants:

"Plans for the future: I want to have a kind, beautiful husband whom I would tease and squeeze and kiss till faint state, have a nice house and a small garden and a stupid dog that could hum along silly tunes with me, raise well behaved kids and thus contribute to society by being happy…and doing something useful...and writing a good book maybe."


Nothing attracts me more than that attitude. Why can't more women be like that?