Article : Is it better to be alone than compromise?

[Warrior74]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...38-says-shes-settling-Mr-Not-Quite-Right.html

 

[Jitterbug]

That woman is a narcissistic wreck (me me me what can men do for me me me) who's way past her expiry date, but what bugs me is that such a mess can still find a fairly decent guy (albeit in her description) to ask her out and to marry her.

 

[squirrels]

LOL...women expect marriage to be like a friggin fairy-tale. (it's not)

The thing is, when a woman doesn't get her fairy-tale, she can just up-out and a bunch of p***y-whipped AFCs and jacked single friends will sympathize with her. If a man doesn't get HIS fairy-tale out of marriage and leaves, he's a scoundrel.

To answer your original question, if you have realistic expectations about marriage, you won't have to "compromise". As to whether you should get married or stay single...it's an individual circumstance decision. Problem is, most people take marriage "by default", because they don't know what else to do with themselves. That's why the divorce rate is so high.

 

[jophil28]

Women have become self absorbed consumers of mens resources, and they regard this as an entitlement. This is unattractive to the extent of ugliness and vulgarity.
I am old enough to remember when women believed that they had a social obligation to be equal contributors to the health amd maintenance of a marriage and the family.

It has come to this - women today expect their LTRs and marriages to be like one endless 'date' .
When the reality of being in a big girl/big boy relationship impacts them or inconveniences them and their personal comfort, they decide that they are "not in love " with him after all.
Another divorce lawyer gains another client.

 

[Nutz]

LOL...women expect marriage to be like a friggin fairy-tale. (it's not)

The thing is, when a woman doesn't get her fairy-tale, she can just up-out and a bunch of p***y-whipped AFCs and jacked single friends will sympathize with her. If a man doesn't get HIS fairy-tale out of marriage and leaves, he's a scoundrel.

To answer your original question, if you have realistic expectations about marriage, you won't have to "compromise". As to whether you should get married or stay single...it's an individual circumstance decision. Problem is, most people take marriage "by default", because they don't know what else to do with themselves. That's why the divorce rate is so high.

This. People need to take off the Disney blinders and realize marriage for what it actually is: a contract between the man, woman, and state. The relationship doesn't actually change so if you're well off enough to get married then why get married to begin with knowing all the risks that are associated with it?

 

[Greasy Pig]

Agree with all the above. I work with a lot of young women and they say they get 'bored' easily with men. It's obvious to me that they believe relationships (and marriage) should be a man and woman looking lovingly into each other's eyes EVERY DAY, holding hands and skipping through strawberry fields. When this doesn't happen, it's the man's fault and he gets punted to the sideline.
Women need to grow up and contribute more to relationships instead of believing the world - and men - owe them everything.

 

[Nutz]

So I just finished reading the article and I laughed and laughed. The writer is exactly like all the other women in the Western world who are waking up to the fact they were sold a lie by feminists and Disney, that they in fact cannot have their cake and eat it too, that men are NOT disposable, and that Prince Charming is just a fantasy. Women are slowing waking up to the fact they cannot spend their 20s fvcking and chucking men because it will just leave them an empty shell when the biological clock comes a tickin'. This sums it up best...

In fact, if I'm being really honest with myself, he is, and I'm not proud to admit this, a Mr Not Quite Right But Will Do Because My Time Is Running Out.

Had I been younger, I'd have dwelt on what's missing - a strong physical chemistry, a passionate connection, romance - and I'd have called it a day after the first date.

Instead, I'm trying to focus on his many virtues. He's intelligent, funny, solvent, tall, dark, good-looking, mature, reliable and possibly the least egotistical man I've ever gone out with.

Also, I think he'd be faithful (though it is, of course, impossible to know for sure). He wants children and I think he'd make a good father.

I first met him in my 20s. We were together for a year, but my heart was never in it. Then I became infatuated with someone else and we split up.

When I bumped into him again at a party in February, we were both single. He asked me out. I said 'Yes' not because I'd been struck by Cupid's arrow, but because I'd decided I didn't want to be alone for the rest of my life.

I felt instinctively that time was running out. This is a horrible feeling for a woman. No wonder no one talks honestly about it.

In other words, women in their late 30s & 40s that squandered their youth or dumped the men in their lives because they weren't Mr Perfect (which the women naturally assume they're entitled to) are having high regrets for their decisions. It would have been even funnier if the woman's friend in the article, the one who was dumped by his wife because she didn't love him anymore, had gotten a young nubile girlfriend to have a kid with instead of taking back the harpy. At least the writer felt the sting...

Around the same time, I learned that a man I'd secretly thought was The One (there was a palpable, but undeclared chemistry we'd skirted around for years) was about to marry his new, young, pregnant girlfriend.

 

[dalynxx]

See, the thing is that women are sold this story all their lives that a relationship is just like the movies or something not far removed. The truth is remarkably different as we all know and I for one believe that one must compromise in every relationship to some level. It's sad that people aren't realistic in their expectations of a relationship - I think as long you keep the little things going (hugs, kisses and the occasional weekend away alone together) you can stay strong with your SO. It look me a long time to learn this, but flowers and gifts only mean so much. Sticking with each other thru thick and thin is the real test of a strong bond. Most people look at the superficial way too much rather than concentrating on the foundations.

 

[Warrior74]

LOL...women expect marriage to be like a friggin fairy-tale. (it's not)

The thing is, when a woman doesn't get her fairy-tale, she can just up-out and a bunch of p***y-whipped AFCs and jacked single friends will sympathize with her. If a man doesn't get HIS fairy-tale out of marriage and leaves, he's a scoundrel.

To answer your original question, if you have realistic expectations about marriage, you won't have to "compromise". As to whether you should get married or stay single...it's an individual circumstance decision. Problem is, most people take marriage "by default", because they don't know what else to do with themselves. That's why the divorce rate is so high.

It wasn't a question. It's the title of the article. I already know the answer for me personally. Which is why I'm happily single.

 

[squirrels]

This part blows my mind.....what is it that she freakin wants? How could this not be enough? What is missing?

What's missing? What is it he doesn't have?

An appreciative woman...that's what he doesn't have. SHE is what's missing.

If you bring sh!t into the relationship, sh!t is what it will become. These women expect something that does not exist, and these poor naive dudes just walk into it without ever seeing the warning signs.

This is why women cannot find "good men" any more...because "good men" know better than to get caught in relationships with expectations they could NEVER live up to. Women get marked as "impossible" when they think like this...I've heard my friends advise each other to "stay away from xxxx...she's saving herself for 'Prince Charming'". Once a girl gets flagged as impossible-to-satisfy, only these fools will fall for her.

 

[Pickupmilitia]

Agree with all the above. I work with a lot of young women and they say they get 'bored' easily with men. It's obvious to me that they believe relationships (and marriage) should be a man and woman looking lovingly into each other's eyes EVERY DAY, holding hands and skipping through strawberry fields. When this doesn't happen, it's the man's fault and he gets punted to the sideline.
Women need to grow up and contribute more to relationships instead of believing the world - and men - owe them everything.

The truth!

 

[Pickupmilitia]

I actually just had a girl pull this who is 31

Like the human life span so does the woman's perfection complex increase with time

 

[Slickster]

I think chronically single guys should be dating any woman they can get.

The idea being that even if she isn't really what you are looking for the mere fact that you are taking women out sets you up for more success.

Your mindset improves and you get social proof which tends to cause a snowball effect amongst other females interest levels.

Guys who spend too much time alone jerking off waiting for Ms. Right tend to get complacent and boring. So when an interesting woman comes along they are unprepared and uninteresting.

If you haven't been practicing your skills how can you expect to come into the big game and perform to the best of your ability?