You'd be surprised how many single moms say this, but have had men in the past that would stick around, but they wanted to play the field. There are several blue pillers at my job who are fvcking around with single moms. One or two caught feelings, but then the single momma wanted to play the field. Seems they just want to play the field some days and have a relationship other days. And they say men are screwed up in the head. Prob. best to avoid the mess and drama and just go with a lady w/o kids.
I’ve been having the same experience with single moms.
Granted the ones I date are quite hot, but many, even in their mid-30's want to play on Tinder, multi-date, play silly little girl games, etc. I've dumped a few already for the boorish behavior. Many are on SA and SDM too. So for me, I either date women MUCH younger, (10-25 years younger) and have all the drama and hassles that brings or try to date a bit older in which many do have kids, and still run into many of the same BS. Amazing how much over-inflated value some of these women have in themselves...and they b*itch they cannot "find a good man." Hilarious. So yes, I'm in the STR, FWB camp and tell them that upfront. I do say the door is always open if I meet someone "extraordinary," but that never happens.
After dating for the past 2.5 years after being out of the game for almost 9 years, a few anecdotes and conclusions:
-I am absolutely 100% convinced women could not pick out a decent (which doesn't necessarily mean blue pill, beta provider) guy if their life 100% depended on it. Mostly the Paradox of Choice at work here.
-The single mothers feel entitled to and want to play around just as much as the 21-year old college girl.
-Manners like saying "thank you" and general courtesy are gone. Entitlement is "in."
-The slightest mishap will get you booted because they can go home and have 100 new messages in their inbox. False abundance on their part as quantity does not equal quality. But, it’s much easier to crumple someone up and toss in the can than actually working through issues that will come up with anyone.
-No one actually tries in a relationship. They say they do, but “trying” now compared to 10 years ago? No one does. And again women wonder, "Why doesn't anything ever work out????"
That's why I'm all in on STRs, FWBs, and NSAs. There is just no other option right now given the market. It's all good because it allows me to focus on me and my business knowing I don't have to do the heavy lifting a LTR requires. It actually churns my stomach a bit thinking of LTRs after all the s*hit dates and BS women I've met--and it's been a lot (I've lost count but probably 50-60 women in last 2.5 years, so lots of data points to reach my conclusions).
DJ all the way, baby.
~Dash
PS- A special invitation for our female SS members to comment on my "conclusions." Just curious what they **candidly** think and agree and disagree with.
