MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
And what was the best decision?i've been married for almost 4 years now and i can easily say it's the 2nd best decision i ever made in my life.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Joining sosuave!And what was the best decision?
deciding to go to best buy after i picked my sister up from day care when i was 18. met my future business partner in the computer tech section, changed the trajectory of my lifeAnd what was the best decision?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah, I went back home this summer for a friend's wedding. I've known him since we were both in preschool together and he's always been an easy going, quiet reserved type of guy. I hadn't met his wife before the rehearsal but the moment she strutted into the church I had this awful feeling in my gut because she clearly was there for the show and not because she actually liked my friend. She snapped at him to throw his shoulders back during the rehearsal and I'll never forget the way she described how he proposed to her at the rehearsal dinner at the table we were at. She acted annoyed with him and was even poking fun at him for how nervous and awkward he was proposing. I was furious but kept my mouth shut. I just felt awful for my friend. But again, under the guise of marriage and this fantasy world a-lot of people float through in life it was all fine.more than anything else, what bothers me about marriage is my personal experiences with women that had low interest if not outright cheating, yet still wanted me to ask them to get married.