article: Heartbroken Men Are Shelling Out Hundreds of Dollars to “Get Their Ex Back.” What Are They Getting in Return?

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Heartbroken People Are Shelling Out Hundreds of Dollars to “Get Their Ex Back.” What Are They Getting In Return?

There's a slim chance a “breakup kit” or a 10-step program can convince someone to love you again. That hasn't stopped coaches from trying.

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Benny Lichtenwalner got married young. The father of four—who spoke to me from his Kansas City home in a salt-and-pepper beard and a pair of translucent, milky-white eyeglasses, and with the tiny outline of a heart inked at the tip of his right cheekbone—was raised in a devoutly Catholic family. His parents encouraged him to settle down with his first wife fresh out of high school, and perhaps unsurprisingly, Lichtenwalner was already divorced by his mid-30s. That was when he met the woman of his dreams. “She’s the polar opposite from my wife. She’s the fun tattoo girl, while my wife was rigid,” said Lichtenwalner. “And then she just crushes me. She breaks up with me out of nowhere. Cheats on me. The whole thing.”

The heartbreak brought Lichtenwalner to his knees, and he resolved to try anything to win the “fun tattoo girl” back. So he turned to the internet and sought the advice of so-called get-your-ex-back coaches—YouTubers, authors, and podcasters who have made their careers in the large and mostly uncertified world of breakup rehabilitation. These coaches offer their clients a proprietary set of psychological and rhetorical strategies that, they claim, will cause a former lover to return to the grasp of their dumped partner, restoring the relationship.

my opinion: This is what happens to a man when he doesn't have OPTIONS. When a man's woman thinks that he has OPTIONS, she won't let him go in the first place.