Heizen
Senior Don Juan
I came across this article while I was posting at a breakdance site (I breakdance pretty regularly).
You want to be confident and get women? You need to be happy with yourself first. How can you truly be happy? Well a greater understanding of how can come from this.
Enjoy
Link here:
http://www.bboy.org/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=53001
Article:
This thread comes from a previous one of mine. This version is the updated/edited one. The old one that has a lot of questions/comments can be found here: http://www.bboy.org/forums/showthre...mp;pagenumber=1
I've been attending the Toronto School of Philosophy for over 5 years now and I once heard an amazing lecture that has literately changed my life. I would like to share some of that with you.
The topic was to attract youths and was: How to Get What I Really Want in Life. The crowd that showed up was very diverse. There were teens that seemed ‘preppy,’ others dressed in hip-hop attire and even some punk rockers. There were even adults and some older people. From previously attending the school, I had my doubts that whoever gave the lecture was going to intrigue every person in here as some like philosophy and some do not. To my surprise, everyone was affected and loved it. That man that was going to give the lecture was the leader of the philosophy school in Dublin, Ireland (he came to Toronto). I will give you my version of everything:
Now we will first start out by asking ourselves, what do we really want in life? What do we wish to accomplish or achieve before we pass away?
These questions are rarely asked in the midst of our ‘busy’ lives and sometimes we go around aimlessly throughout life not knowing what we wish to attain. But aren’t these questions among the most important? Aren’t these questions what really drive us?
After thinking about that question, a popular response would probably be things such as a nice house, a good car, a beautiful wife/husband, a stable and enjoyable career and money. People want to look successful, have power and respect. Something that almost everyone craves or wishes to attain is money. People throw away their dreams of getting a job they may love for getting a job that they dislike but get more money from. People throw away careers that they love that would help make them happy everyday to work for more money.
Let me ask you a question.
Say your happiness was a physical thing that you could throw around or bounce or give away. There is no trick or deeper meaning behind this, it's just you are with it (happiness), or without it. This is all the happiness you can attain and you have it there in physical form. If you are without it, then you cannot be happy until you get it back.
Now, would you sell your happiness to me for 10 dollars?
The obvious answer would be no, because without the happiness, the money is nothing in true value.
Alright, would you sell your happiness to me for 1000 dollars?
Again, the answer would be no because it’s no the money that really matters, it’s the happiness.
Now, would you sell your happiness to me for 70 billion dollars?
Maybe after a bit of hesitation, you would realize the answer is no because what good is money if it cannot make you happy? The value of money is nothing if no happiness can be obtained from it. Not to say money will not bring you happiness, but just to distinguish that happiness and money are two separate entities. Sure, they sometimes coincide but ultimately you want the money because you think it will make you happy.
So, if you will not sell me your happiness for 70 BILLION dollars, why do you sell it everyday for something less?
Ex: If your coffee is cold then you sell your happiness in an instant.
If you are late for something then you sell your happiness for anger.
If you get cannot answer a question then you sell your happiness for frustrations.
If you get reprimanded at work then you sell your happiness for sadness.
Just think, if you would NOT sell your happiness for 70 BILLION DOLLARS why do you sell it everyday, for something less?
Everything is nothing if one does not have happiness. Why do we want a good career, why do we want a stable family and why do we want money? Isn’t it because we think all of those things will make us happy?
Everything one wishes to attain is in hope that one will achieve a certain amount of happiness from it. We think that all of these things will make us happy. Take any possession one wishes to attain and the real reason one wants to attain it is happiness. We may have had a similar experience before with an object and exacted an amount of happiness from it and wish to be around or possess it again to obtain more happiness. Therefore we go around our entire lives trying to obtain happiness.
Furthermore, one may ask ‘well how can I become happy if something happens to me or something goes wrong somewhere and I am sad?’ ‘Wouldn't I have to be sad because of it?’
The answer is no. Bad thing happens in life and sometimes we are powerless to the situation, but we do not have to become unhappy because of it. Would you rather be angry and sad or happy?
There is a story that relates to this about how they use to capture primates in Africa: What they use to do is go to an area in the jungle and dig a hole that is very narrow, about as narrow as an arm's width. Next they would put a piece of sweet meat in the hole so the monkey would smell it. They would then hide somewhat away from the whole and wait. The monkey would then smell the meat and put his hand in the hole and grab the meat. He would then try to yank both his hand and the meat out. Since he is grasping the meat, his hand would be a fist and thus be too wide to come out of the narrow hole. The monkey would go crazy and yell until the hunters came and seen the monkey in his struggle and capture it. Why is this relevant?
This shows that the monkey valued his possession (the meat) more than his own life, more than his own freedom. To be free, all one must do is let go. To be happy and enjoy life, all he had to do is let go. Thus, we can take this example and apply it to ourselves. Bad things happen and people hold on to them and do not want to let them go, but to truly be free one must let go. Let go of the event and move on. Be in the present moment because that is where everything happens. You will miss something if you hold on to the past.
How many time have you seen this monkey inside of you or inside someone else? How many times have you seen people stubbornly holding on to something that happened 10 years ago or something so small happened a week ago? How many times have you seen someone hold on to something to a point where they are becoming destroyed because of it? How many times have you held on to something so meaningless and stupid? Sometimes people aren’t even aware that it’s ruining them just as the monkey did not really know it was a trap at first. Eventually, people do come to this realization though, whether told or realized. Even if some people do know that something bad is happening to them, they persist.
But perhaps one may bring up situations where sadness is seemingly inflicting on them... situations where one has to be sad. A relative may die, a personal injury might happen or even a house might burn down. Sure, if you need some time to be sad then take it, but ultimately you return to happiness. There is no situation where one has to be sad, angry or anything else. It is always your OWN personal choice of how to react to the situation. When everyone else may be sad or angry, wouldn’t you want to be the strong one that helps them get through their rough times?
Again, anytime you feel unhappy, just ask yourself: If I wouldn't sell my happiness for 70 billion dollars, why am I selling it now? The trick is to not sell your happiness for anything and just to be free of things.
But aren’t there still sometimes where people are jackasses and keep laying verbal abuse on you all the time? Those people who keep talking **** and being stupid? to this, I pose a story about the Budda: One day, the Budda was sitting under a tree, at peace with himself and along came an angry man. The angry man started slandering the Budda, but he just sat there quietly observing the man. After the man had become tired from his slandering, the Budda asked him a question..
"My friend, if a present is given to another, but that other does not accept it, with whom does the present remain?"
"The giver," the man replied.
"Well then, I refuse thy abuse."
Then there is something bout how he took refuge in the budda and other stuff. The point is that you do not have to accept something else another person is doing. If it isn't true, than don't take it. Fools will keep talking and talking, but u do not have to take it to heart. Refuse to take abuse.
You want to be confident and get women? You need to be happy with yourself first. How can you truly be happy? Well a greater understanding of how can come from this.
Enjoy
Link here:
http://www.bboy.org/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=53001
Article:
This thread comes from a previous one of mine. This version is the updated/edited one. The old one that has a lot of questions/comments can be found here: http://www.bboy.org/forums/showthre...mp;pagenumber=1
I've been attending the Toronto School of Philosophy for over 5 years now and I once heard an amazing lecture that has literately changed my life. I would like to share some of that with you.
The topic was to attract youths and was: How to Get What I Really Want in Life. The crowd that showed up was very diverse. There were teens that seemed ‘preppy,’ others dressed in hip-hop attire and even some punk rockers. There were even adults and some older people. From previously attending the school, I had my doubts that whoever gave the lecture was going to intrigue every person in here as some like philosophy and some do not. To my surprise, everyone was affected and loved it. That man that was going to give the lecture was the leader of the philosophy school in Dublin, Ireland (he came to Toronto). I will give you my version of everything:
Now we will first start out by asking ourselves, what do we really want in life? What do we wish to accomplish or achieve before we pass away?
These questions are rarely asked in the midst of our ‘busy’ lives and sometimes we go around aimlessly throughout life not knowing what we wish to attain. But aren’t these questions among the most important? Aren’t these questions what really drive us?
After thinking about that question, a popular response would probably be things such as a nice house, a good car, a beautiful wife/husband, a stable and enjoyable career and money. People want to look successful, have power and respect. Something that almost everyone craves or wishes to attain is money. People throw away their dreams of getting a job they may love for getting a job that they dislike but get more money from. People throw away careers that they love that would help make them happy everyday to work for more money.
Let me ask you a question.
Say your happiness was a physical thing that you could throw around or bounce or give away. There is no trick or deeper meaning behind this, it's just you are with it (happiness), or without it. This is all the happiness you can attain and you have it there in physical form. If you are without it, then you cannot be happy until you get it back.
Now, would you sell your happiness to me for 10 dollars?
The obvious answer would be no, because without the happiness, the money is nothing in true value.
Alright, would you sell your happiness to me for 1000 dollars?
Again, the answer would be no because it’s no the money that really matters, it’s the happiness.
Now, would you sell your happiness to me for 70 billion dollars?
Maybe after a bit of hesitation, you would realize the answer is no because what good is money if it cannot make you happy? The value of money is nothing if no happiness can be obtained from it. Not to say money will not bring you happiness, but just to distinguish that happiness and money are two separate entities. Sure, they sometimes coincide but ultimately you want the money because you think it will make you happy.
So, if you will not sell me your happiness for 70 BILLION dollars, why do you sell it everyday for something less?
Ex: If your coffee is cold then you sell your happiness in an instant.
If you are late for something then you sell your happiness for anger.
If you get cannot answer a question then you sell your happiness for frustrations.
If you get reprimanded at work then you sell your happiness for sadness.
Just think, if you would NOT sell your happiness for 70 BILLION DOLLARS why do you sell it everyday, for something less?
Everything is nothing if one does not have happiness. Why do we want a good career, why do we want a stable family and why do we want money? Isn’t it because we think all of those things will make us happy?
Everything one wishes to attain is in hope that one will achieve a certain amount of happiness from it. We think that all of these things will make us happy. Take any possession one wishes to attain and the real reason one wants to attain it is happiness. We may have had a similar experience before with an object and exacted an amount of happiness from it and wish to be around or possess it again to obtain more happiness. Therefore we go around our entire lives trying to obtain happiness.
Furthermore, one may ask ‘well how can I become happy if something happens to me or something goes wrong somewhere and I am sad?’ ‘Wouldn't I have to be sad because of it?’
The answer is no. Bad thing happens in life and sometimes we are powerless to the situation, but we do not have to become unhappy because of it. Would you rather be angry and sad or happy?
There is a story that relates to this about how they use to capture primates in Africa: What they use to do is go to an area in the jungle and dig a hole that is very narrow, about as narrow as an arm's width. Next they would put a piece of sweet meat in the hole so the monkey would smell it. They would then hide somewhat away from the whole and wait. The monkey would then smell the meat and put his hand in the hole and grab the meat. He would then try to yank both his hand and the meat out. Since he is grasping the meat, his hand would be a fist and thus be too wide to come out of the narrow hole. The monkey would go crazy and yell until the hunters came and seen the monkey in his struggle and capture it. Why is this relevant?
This shows that the monkey valued his possession (the meat) more than his own life, more than his own freedom. To be free, all one must do is let go. To be happy and enjoy life, all he had to do is let go. Thus, we can take this example and apply it to ourselves. Bad things happen and people hold on to them and do not want to let them go, but to truly be free one must let go. Let go of the event and move on. Be in the present moment because that is where everything happens. You will miss something if you hold on to the past.
How many time have you seen this monkey inside of you or inside someone else? How many times have you seen people stubbornly holding on to something that happened 10 years ago or something so small happened a week ago? How many times have you seen someone hold on to something to a point where they are becoming destroyed because of it? How many times have you held on to something so meaningless and stupid? Sometimes people aren’t even aware that it’s ruining them just as the monkey did not really know it was a trap at first. Eventually, people do come to this realization though, whether told or realized. Even if some people do know that something bad is happening to them, they persist.
But perhaps one may bring up situations where sadness is seemingly inflicting on them... situations where one has to be sad. A relative may die, a personal injury might happen or even a house might burn down. Sure, if you need some time to be sad then take it, but ultimately you return to happiness. There is no situation where one has to be sad, angry or anything else. It is always your OWN personal choice of how to react to the situation. When everyone else may be sad or angry, wouldn’t you want to be the strong one that helps them get through their rough times?
Again, anytime you feel unhappy, just ask yourself: If I wouldn't sell my happiness for 70 billion dollars, why am I selling it now? The trick is to not sell your happiness for anything and just to be free of things.
But aren’t there still sometimes where people are jackasses and keep laying verbal abuse on you all the time? Those people who keep talking **** and being stupid? to this, I pose a story about the Budda: One day, the Budda was sitting under a tree, at peace with himself and along came an angry man. The angry man started slandering the Budda, but he just sat there quietly observing the man. After the man had become tired from his slandering, the Budda asked him a question..
"My friend, if a present is given to another, but that other does not accept it, with whom does the present remain?"
"The giver," the man replied.
"Well then, I refuse thy abuse."
Then there is something bout how he took refuge in the budda and other stuff. The point is that you do not have to accept something else another person is doing. If it isn't true, than don't take it. Fools will keep talking and talking, but u do not have to take it to heart. Refuse to take abuse.
