article: At 61, I Am Coming To Terms With The Possibility That I Will Always Be Single

[MatureDJ]

At 61, I Am Coming To Terms With The Possibility That I Will Always Be Single

I have not been in a committed relationship since my husband died nearly 21 years ago.

www.huffpost.com

 

[bat soup]

I have done all the things relationship coaches advise, such as feng shui-ing my home, designing a vision board, making “the list” of qualities I desire in a partner...


Oh, I see. This is how women think life works. If you want something just make a list of the things you want and wait for it all to come to you. Which reminds me, I'm still waiting for Ikea to deliver the sofa that I didn't order.

 

[Zimbabwe]

I have done all the things relationship coaches advise, such as feng shui-ing my home, designing a vision board, making “the list” of qualities I desire in a partner...


Oh, I see. This is how women think life works. If you want something just make a list of the things you want and wait for it all to come to you. Which reminds me, I'm still waiting for Ikea to deliver the sofa that I didn't order.

Good things come to those who wait, sit on your couch all day and the man of your dreams will come knocking on your door!

 

[bat soup]

Good things come to those who wait, sit on your couch all day and the man of your dreams will come knocking on your door!

Yeah, but the problem is that I don't even have a couch. Maybe if I make a list of the type of couches I would enjoy, a nice one will turn up.

 

[allergictobs]

Oh, I see. This is how women think life works. If you want something just make a list of the things you want and wait for it all to come to you.

You don't even need the last part, because most women are ok with living in false reality. Most women just make a list of what they want, and then bend reality. It is especially evident in work and education.

A woman wants to be highly educated and intelligent - gets a PhD in gender studies, and boom, she is now what she wanted...on paper. Never mind she didn't actually increase her education level or intelligence.

A woman wants to have a successful career and be viewed as a hard working individual - gets a job as a HR manager or as a specialist in topic X, which no one wants or needs. She is now what she wanted, never mind her work doesn't actually accomplish anything.

I've met countless cases like these at work over the years. It's a great insight into women's thinking in general.

 

[SW15]

When the article published in January 2020, she was 61, overweight, short hair, and had a weird personality. There's not much demand for that, even among 61-70 year old men.

I doubt she was a great catch at age 42 in January 2001. She had a 14 year old son then, so she'd have been a single mom. From the linked article....

"Michael took his last breath on Dec. 21,1998, and since then I have had short-term relationships, lovers and friends with benefits. I have not been in a committed relationship since my husband died nearly 21 years ago. I call myself “incidentally poly,” "

Chateau Heartiste many years ago coined a phrase "insol" for women. Insol is involuntary solitude. There are more and more insol women out there. Insol women are getting sex regularly and even have a good social circle. They just can't get commitment. Being an insol woman is not as bad as being an incel man because an insol woman is getting her base sexual needs met. This is an insol woman.

A female incel (woman who is unable to get laid) does not exist up until age 50. Beyond age 50, it is more likely to exist, but still rare. If the woman you deal with are under 50, you're not going to see this. The woman in question started as an insol in her 40s and it has persisted into her 60s. Even beyond menopause, this woman has been able to get laid.

While the male incel typically has poor social skills and is a social reject, the female insol has at least adequate social skills. She typically has a few female friends. She has semi regular sex at a minimum. She gets some relationships with men, but they are typically 6 months or less. She doesn't get long term commitment. She has a high notch count and is known as a carousel rider. This describes the woman in the article perfectly.

This woman will not find a long term, committed relationship in her lifetime.

 

[MatureDJ]

A female incel (woman who is unable to get laid) does not exist up until age 50. Beyond age 50, it is more likely to exist, but still rare. If the woman you deal with are under 50, you're not going to see this. The woman in question started as an insol in her 40s and it has persisted into her 60s. Even beyond menopause, this woman has been able to get laid.

I remember a middle-aged woman that lived across the street when I was a lad. On a weekends, she would have a steady stream of men in Cadillacs (this was the aspirational car for the GI Generation) pull up, and leave an hour or so later. I was hanging out with some neighborhood friends outside, and when the man would walk to his car, we gave him the thumbs up.

 

[SW15]

I remember a middle-aged woman that lived across the street when I was a lad. On a weekends, she would have a steady stream of men in Cadillacs (this was the aspirational car for the GI Generation) pull up, and leave an hour or so later. I was hanging out with some neighborhood friends outside, and when the man would walk to his car, we gave him the thumbs up.

So some woman in her 40s-50s in the 1980s was having frequent sex with multiple men? Interesting.

 

[lost_blackbird]

Yeah, but the problem is that I don't even have a couch. Maybe if I make a list of the type of couches I would enjoy, a nice one will turn up.

Ebay and auctionsniping is your answer.I got a leather 4 seater a few weeks ago for £25.
It's so damn big I had to take my living room window out to get it into my house, it wouldn't even
fit through the front door.

 

[nismo-4]

Good things come to those who wait, sit on your couch all day and the man of your dreams will come knocking on your door!

Good things come to those who wait. So if I wait some more years on end I'll have 10 shares of Berkshire Hathaway, Shakira & Katy Perry simultaneously blowing me and swallowing my cüm, a Maserati Quattroporte, a Tesla Model S, a multimillion dollar bank account, etc.

I did a commencement speech at a University's Technology major graduation. I told that whole class that if you're good and you wait without acting, you'll all be senior front-end developers and programmers at Google, Apple, Facebook, PayPal, Tesla, Amazon, Microsoft, Boeing, Airbus, Nintendo, and Samsung a year later. When I finished I said it was all bull cuz good things actually come to those who act and hustle.

Of course you can't tell a group of average guys if they stop watching porn, their dream girl will come knocking on their front door ready for her back to get blown out a month later.

 

[lost_blackbird]

Here's the issue. Porn always delivers.

 

[lost_blackbird]

Of course you can't tell a group of average guys if they stop watching porn, their dream girl will come knocking on their front door ready for her back to get blown out a month later.

That's because obviously, they won't. If only it was that easy.