article: All The Single Ladies

[zekko]

I can understand the idea of something missing, but until you know what that is, why do something (such as in this case ending a stable, healthy loving relationship) when you don't even know yourself why you're doing it? It's overthinking things to the detriment of both parties. I get "Well you want to have children and I don't," or "You're an Atheist, I'm a Christian, this would never work," etc.

Well, we're always hearing women don't go by logic, and instead go by their emotions. Whereas men might look for a concrete reason, women might just feel something is missing or something isn't right.

I know it sucks to be dumped, but if a girl doesn't appreciate you as you should be appreciated, I don't think it's really helpful to try to hang onto it, or try to logically convince her to appreciate you. Bottom line: I don't to be stuck with a girl who doesn't appreciate me, for whatever reason.

 

[Kailex]

I always appreciate a good ole tragicomedy blog post.

 

[Burroughs]

But would you advise a guy to settle for a girl if he thought "something was missing"?

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No..don't settle. Not if as a man you really have your $hit together, looks, finance, career, etc.

But....

there's always a but.

As a man you have to be realistic about what you have to offer and what you can GET. Honestly evaluate your prospects.The 35 year old, slim WASP trust fund brat will have more options than a 38 year old pudgy Indian research scientist. (No offense to wasps or Indians). Each man must maximize his cards but first he must decipher what his cards are. This is where most men....AND women fail. Most people don't have an honest sense of where they stand so they go through life DEMANDING a destiny and a level of opportunity that will NEVER come to pass. Harsh but true.

 

[mrRuckus]

concluded that only 20 percent of the men (those considered to have the highest status) are having 80 percent of the sex, with only 20 percent of the women (those with the greatest sexual willingness); the remaining 80 percent, male and female, sit out the hookup dance altogether. (Surprisingly, a 2007 study commissioned by the Justice Department suggested that male virgins outnumber female virgins on campus.) As Walsh puts it, most of the leftover men are “have nots” in terms of access to sex, and most of the women—both those who are hooking up and those who are not—are “have nots” in terms of access to male attention that leads to commitment.

Sexual willingness? Ha! Sounds like fatties.

 

[limerickdesign]

I watch this show called "tough love" a dating pro for women brings women down to earth in their expectations. There was a group of like 100 guys and the girls stated what they wanted and if the guy didnt meet the criteria then he had to sit down. Needless to say women are a bit spoiled in their expectations but mean well. Watching the show helps you see that women are not monsters or bi**ches. Women are more a victim of conflicting programming that goes against their nature and everyone pays for it in the end.

 

[Nutz]

Author and women like her are reaping what they sow. It sucks for most guys, but for the few of us who are enjoying "soft harems" life couldn't be better.

Hookup culture can be summarized by a Roissy quote: "women prefer five minutes of alpha to five years of beta".