"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Article about Porn and it's place in your life

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thanks for posting this I need to improve my life and live again anyway! Gotta stop watching porn and having a fun with your only right hand companion is so lame. When ive had a gal Ive had sex with it was way way better anyway. I saw the masturbation challenge on this forum I must commit to it! Kill the bad habits...
 

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He might be. But overall I think someone who is looking to improve their life can benefit from cutting out the excessive porn viewing. Chad's articles are some of the best I've ever read.
 

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That is a good article. I don't watch porn anymore. It does me no good. Being all that as it may, you can't tell a bunch of men to quit watching porn and then they'll have their soulmate knocking on their doors 30 days later.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dear GS 750,
What a lot of rubbish....Take it from me I have been looking at porn for fifty five years,I still wake up with a Woody,don't have any problems with Women...get real!
 

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That's a good article. It's nothing new, but guys need to hear it. He does embellish things and even pedestalize women a little bit, but he's positive so I'll cut him some slack. There's enough negative cynical bloggers out there.

I know that I feel 10x healthier mentally and sexually when I am not watching porn. It's actually pretty easy once you kill the habit. It gets tough, for me anyways, when I have idle hands and I'm feeling a bit horny. The Coolidge Effect is so true too....if you haven't looked at porn in months, seeing a pair of nice bare breasts is really stimulating. But it does not last for long.

One thing I disagree with is his victimizing of women----yes there is a lot of horrible degrading stuff out there---but the vast majority of women in mainstream porn are trying to make a buck like everyone else. No one is holding a gun to their head and making them take 12 loads to the face. That doesn't make it right, but most of these women know what they are getting into.
 

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Scaramouche said:
Dear GS 750,
What a lot of rubbish....Take it from me I have been looking at porn for fifty five years,I still wake up with a Woody,don't have any problems with Women...get real!
There are a lot of men who disagree with that. But to each their own. And no offense, but if you're 70 then you didnt grow up or mature at an age when access to porn was as easy as opening a laptop where theres billions of websites available.
 

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Dear GS750,
Oh you are soo right,in my Schooldays most Porn had to Masquerade as Art!....Hugh Hefner changed all that,and the Old Buffer is still strobing away at eighty,didn't do him any harm LOL.
 

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Well also just because you watch porn don't mean you will eventually seek the kinky and weird stuff either.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Whenever I find myself not able to climax, I often think back to an experience of looking at a super fine stripper taking off her panties - or of a comparably erotic video scene, etc. - or perhaps a time when an old g/f was not "in the mood" but I was, and it typically "puts me over the top".
 

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I don't get why guys on the forum get a tough time if they quit porn or fap. Nobody ever holds it out as a miracle cure. "Quit jerking off, for a better credit rating"

To each his own, whatever works. I just think not watching was better for the way I felt. Period.
 
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