"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Art Class modeling a good way meet girls?

Colossus

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I'm going to be picking up some hours as a nude model for drawing classes at my university. I'm a little sketchy about it, but Ive got a decent physique, and it's good money for doing essentially nothing. I was wondering, of course, if this would be a good way to meet girls. I guess after they've seen you naked you've got nothing to hide, right? Some thoughtful input would be appreciated.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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MidnightResistance

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Nice idea, but no. You're on the wrong side, because you have to sit and shut up.

If you're one of the guys attending the art class (I did Fine Art as part of my degree), then you have a whole hour or two to chat and flirt with the arty chicks.
 

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Yeah, I was an art student and there were certain rules. We were not allowed to associate with the models. Some were really beautiful (and it's great 'cause you get to stare at them as much as you want from any angle you want for two hours) and I wanted to approach them but they wouldn't have been allowed to speak back to me even if I had. I imagine that is pretty much the protocol in most situations. And, as MidnightResistance said, you can't really be spitting game while you're modeling. Much better to take a class. A lot of those chicks are really cool, really hot, and really open.

But then again you might get lucky. Who knows - some art meets you outside school at a party, knows every inch of your body and likes what she saw...maybe you'll get lucky.

~Sloopy
 

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How did this go for you?
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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If thats what YOU want to do... go for it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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