Arrogance beat assertiveness

[tesla8520]

I mostly work with attorneys, lawers, real estate managers, or any other professional like that.

One thing I've noticed is that when there is a 1:1 discussion and the professional is reprimanded, it is pointed out something that he did wrong, or that he didn't do, (sometimes people lie about this, but not always), at this point, whether it's the lawyer or the property manager, he uses the one-way tantrum to be right and end the discussion, rather than saying he's wrong, and withdrawing, he has to raise his voice, sometimes even insulting the other person, to be able to impose himself.
After doing this, if the other has calmed down, then he also can try to use sweet words to gain his trust.

I've always seen this as very insecure on the part of men, but it just seems like it's the only thing that works to shut the other person up, but more importantly, get the credit, even when there isn't any.
Arrogance, prepotence, closed-mindedness, and raising one's voice, even if they come from insecurity, win against the firmness of assertiveness.

Wonder how this connect with women relationships too, since those kind of men have "successfull" relationships, or, at least, they are mantanining women easier than others.

What are your experiences?

 

[Travel memoir21]

If you have to use this manipulation tactics very often against the people you hang around with, you're with the wrong crowd buddy...or in the wrong line of work for that matter. Laid back, low maintenance relationships does exist.....Ive witness several from close friends and family....it's all about making the right choices in life and whether or not you have a solid inner foundation you can rely on. Look around, do you honestly expect to find a quality woman on Dating apps and bars and clubs these days? That's like going to a McDonalds and expecting a fancy dinner. Not gonna work.

 

[OngBak]

The Problem is, majority of the People are idiots, especially if woman are involved.
If you have f.e have a toxic workspace, a woman can set the frame that being arrogant is attractive. So what happens? They will reinforce that behavior, and everyone who doesn't pursue that behavior gets punished.

Woman are nowadays the worst kind of People to judge a mens character and personality, there will be f.e also woman that will sometimes set the frame that unattractive traits are attractive, they create a situation where they manipulate themself into finding unattractive traits attractive. Society will be doomed over the years, more and more "Alpha" Behaviors are decreasing. Testosterone over the year keeps dropping and the worst, these type of people will do some kind of trt, even though nature decided to extinguish them, so more and more weak People are preserved by society, because they bring money due to their insecurities. Testosterone keeps dropping, and more and more miserable woman reinforce mental disorder classified behaviors.. Of course there are also good woman, but they are rare