You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
F-EM. Next dance make up a story that she did the same thing to you. The girls will probably think your a bad ass. That or wait a few years and throw a brick through her car window. Or do nothing which is fine too.jtrain 289 said:i just got arrested from school for a girl saying that i sexually harassesed her and the whole school knows about it i didnt even touch but they just said i did i was dancing around her in a sexual way though but didnt touch her. Now iam at home on suspension what do you think the girls will think about me when i get back to school ?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Good god, man, use your head.jtrain 289 said:it wasnt at a dance it was after school and i just started dancing around her moving my hips but i didnt touch her and they are saying that i did touch her
+1.daygameguy said:Just let people think whatever they want. Maybe you did something vulgur/sexual. Maybe you didn't. The best you can do now is - Be cool. Have a mindset that you didn't do anything wrong, and people will sense that you are secure and confident, and even though that girl fvcked u up, you are not an AFC to start whining and planning on your petty revenge.
Just be cool. At least you are famous. People's perspective of you will ALWAYS derive itself from YOUR perspective of yourself.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
In the right place and right time with the right person it is. A few years ago a asian guy in Canada was arrested at a club for bad behavior. I believe he was trying to grind on a girl when she didn't want it. And I am sure he spent a lot of money trying to clear his name.Number_One said:its ok, being sexual and freaky is all part of being a don juan
lol, i joke of course
Wouldn't be surprised if that happened.mr_elor said:Lol maybe they'll start putting advice in women's mags:
"Warning, if he says Hi he may be a pickup artist! Other signs include good body language and confidence!"
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Nothing. You're the problem, that's why you got arrested.jtrain 289 said:i dont get it like wahts rong wit yhese girls?
Nerds and goobers are socially awkward people. It's not just because of weird hobbies or being smart. It's because they are fat or weak or skinny, and have poor social skills. You can improve all of that easily.CapedCrusader08 said:well,why can't "nerds and goobs" pickup the women? What's the difference? It's **** like this that confuses me,like you have to wait for her signals,I say,skip it all,and get to the bangin.
This is why you don't use the lines or routines. If you are truly being yourself and not using the lines/routines, it should not matter if the "Guru's" sell out. Most people here won't agree with me because of their mindsets, but it is true you can say almost anything and get away with it, if you have good subcommunication. Just look at RSD guys. They say sh*t you guys would say "you're not suppose to say" or would call "stupid" but in the end, who gets the girls? Them. But you can always make up your own routines too.TheRealSupreme said:In the right place and right time with the right person it is. A few years ago a asian guy in Canada was arrested at a club for bad behavior. I believe he was trying to grind on a girl when she didn't want it. And I am sure he spent a lot of money trying to clear his name.
It was getting bad when women would just ignore puas or spit on them or slap them now they are fighting back it seems.
In 5 years due to this whole Sarging thing I predict it will be really bad. Especially with the so called guru's selling the community out for a tv show.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.