Arranging too many dates

[Macaframalama]

Agreed, don’t get it twisted though I didn't say I love her she’s the one saying that -

My bad. I took it as she was quoting you.

I'm struggling to let go - she is the first girl I loved and been in a relationship with since my mother passed away and I just poured all my emotion into that relationship (while also not taking it seriously) - it's literally like grieving again

I've been there and know this all too well. Lost 3 family members in a 4 month period, with one of those being very tragic w/ young children left behind. Didn't take the relationship seriously, until the final stages, but I was blinded by everything else to see that she had already checked out. She left after the second death. No contact whatsoever. That was a tough fvcking period of time. It's been 4 years since and it's still tough here and there. I also have trouble letting things go, that are out of my control. I do believe, that there is a silver lining in every cloud and you have looked this thing in the face. It has had a tendency to make normal problems and fears seem so trivial. When you watch someone you love pass away in your presence, there is very little you fear after that, with one exception and that is, not living this one life you have been blessed with to the absolute fullest. Your problem is a simple one to fix. It's not an easy one, but the answer for me has been reframing my mindset and perspective on nearly everything in my life. Good luck brother!

 

[Murk]

My bad. I took it as she was quoting you.

I've been there and know this all too well. Lost 3 family members in a 4 month period, with one of those being very tragic w/ young children left behind. Didn't take the relationship seriously, until the final stages, but I was blinded by everything else to see that she had already checked out. She left after the second death. No contact whatsoever. That was a tough fvcking period of time. It's been 4 years since and it's still tough here and there. I also have trouble letting things go, that are out of my control. I do believe, that there is a silver lining in every cloud and you have looked this thing in the face. It has had a tendency to make normal problems and fears seem so trivial. When you watch someone you love pass away in your presence, there is very little you fear after that, with one exception and that is, not living this one life you have been blessed with to the absolute fullest. Your problem is a simple one to fix. It's not an easy one, but the answer for me has been reframing my mindset and perspective on nearly everything in my life. Good luck brother!

Thanks bro this is probably the post I've needed to see the most.

This is the first time I've behaved like such a beta cuck. I'm 29 years old, my relationship lasted 9 months, 2.5 months good the rest terrible. I've been in 2+ year relationships I let go easily with solid 8/10's.

Anyway - I've identified the problem, like you said I'm looking it in the face. I'll get through this and become a better man. I will not be going to the party my ex is definitely going to with her friend tomorrow night. Instead I'm going to a family party with my best friend, around people that love me, and will work on myself and reduce my plates.