Arranged Marriage Bullsh*t - WTF!

[TheOne21]

Hey, man. You came on here for advice. No need to just contradict all the people trying to some advice to you.

That said, I agree with everyone. Get the heck away from this situation. Unless you're absolutely in love with her, I guess, which it doesn't sound like.

I don't mean to contradict everyone, I not exactly the "listening" type, I only listen to my heart, that's all.. I understand everyone is correct and only trying to help me - and I appreciate that..

I'm not "absolutely in love" lol... Just like her alot.

 

[TheOne21]

When you go out on ONE date with a woman, she tells you plainly that it ain't happening FOR WHATEVER REASON (bigfoot told her not to f-ck you or the king of the unicorns would be displeased), and then you argue with people telling you to walk away, yeah, you got oneitis. The energy worrying about this girl should have already been refocused on cultivating another option.

I have only been on one date true but I know this girl for a few months from work.. We both liked each other since then but I worked with her then so I wasn't comfortable doing anything then..

Oh, and you need to consider the chance that she is just simply rejecting you, not your ethnicity, but YOU. Whether her family has married blah de blah in the past doesn't matter, she may consider herself an American woman at this point and uses the arranged marriage stuff to give a polite brushoff. It's not a sure thing that this is what is going on, but there's a good enough chance that you should consider and calculate this possibility yet you are not.

Very true, I have considered that she's rejecting me and not my ethnicity but I KNOW she likes me, she called me the other night - she plainly told me she likes me but she won't go against her family and that's that.. She sounded like she was gonna cry.. Isn't that clear enough?

 

[TheOne21]

I'm pretty damn sure if you were David beck ham or some hot Bollywood celebrity she will forget about her parents.

Besides have you even met her parents in person to get a feel of how much brown nosing and self respect you need to dump out before gaining their approval. Something tells me even if you succeed with her parents she's gonna lose interest and you would have wasted your time fighting for her.

Hmmm, I'm pretty sure she wouldn't.. I've seen the guys who have asked her out and she's refused them so I don't like she's like that..

Nope, not met her parents and never will now.. What tells you she'll lose interest?

 

[TheOne21]

UPDATE: I finally replied to her text last night saying I understand everything she said but I want to see her one last time to say goodbye as I can't be friends with her..

She called me right after - we spoke for a bit, she almost burst into tears, confessed that she does like me and does want me but her parents come first.

I guess that's it lads - thank you all for your advice. Time for me to heal up from this stupid pain. I'm gonna make another thread asking for advice about not getting attached because that's one of my major problems.. Hope you all contribute..

Cheers