Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Nasman said:
It's not something that happens every time we talk, but it's like we can't really discuss anything other than everyday **** without getting into an argument. I've never had a problem with people disagreeing with me as long as they can remain civil about it. This girl though, thinks that she's always right and never even tries to look at things from my perspective.musclyjerk said:Simple! Cut her out of your life as she isn't worth your time - It's too valuable to be spent on women with no respect who believe they can argue with or tell a man he's wrong AND call you an *******.
Can I ask why you're spending time with a woman who 'pisses' you off? Not that it matters, sling her in the trash and find a cute chick who digs you so much that the last thing on her mind would be to argue with you.. who agree's with you and will fight your corner instead of going up against you.
I suspect this girl you're talking about has issues and frankly, do you need her crap every time you see her?
Tell her you're done with her, keep it short, don't give her space to argue or say anything and move on to far, far better things.
The Muscly Jerk
P.S. After telling her, that's it. Don't even think about contacting her or returning any messages. Finito. Out of your life, for good.
P.P.S. Let me tell you - you will feel absolutely fantastic for it.
This is a sign that you are dealing with an unreasonable person, man. Someone who is unwilling to have some understanding of your point of view and is very argumentative, just ain't the right one. I know you probably hate to hear that but I had to deal with the same thing recently and things are improving.onemorerobot said:
I wholehearteldly agree with this. Once they stop compromising and start demanding everything you've lost her. I dropped my now ex-fiance over things like this, because after all the wishy-washy promises she made she still was miserable to be around.Fantasy said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You know, she's smart as far as her left brain is concerned, but she seems to be what I would call creatively and spiritually retarded. She's one of the shallowest people I know.Outkast said:
ROFL - Can you webcast the fight please:Nighthawk said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.