"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Argh, I have trouble smiling!

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I've noticed that I don't smile that often! I have trouble doing it when I look at girls, it's like we make eye contact, and then I break it because I realize that I didn't smile.

I have really white teeth (i whiten them) and every once in a while i have people comment on them, but for some reason I have trouble showing off one of my best assets

Anyone else ever experience a similar problem?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Depends on my inner game level. If I am fresh and fit and feel awesome, I usually smile a lot. But on other days, not so much.

Truth is, all people aren't social. Many won't smile back when you do. Many like being left alone.

Maybe you should try to genuinely feel happy when you see someone nice, and just convey that with your smile. You might have to force yourself before you get used to it.

There is a grocery store I go to, and the old security guard ALWAYS smiles at EVERYONE and says a BIG hello. I learned a lot from noticing that.
 

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daygameguy said:
Depends on my inner game level. If I am fresh and fit and feel awesome, I usually smile a lot. But on other days, not so much.

Truth is, all people aren't social. Many won't smile back when you do. Many like being left alone.

Maybe you should try to genuinely feel happy when you see someone nice, and just convey that with your smile. You might have to force yourself before you get used to it.

There is a grocery store I go to, and the old security guard ALWAYS smiles at EVERYONE and says a BIG hello. I learned a lot from noticing that.
Pleasant to have you in particular answer this question.

I suppose you're right; if I'm feeling fresh and fit I'll probably be in a fantastic mood! :D

So I'm going to go exercise a bit before I go out; lift some weights, swim, run, and take a cold shower and be on my way!

And the idea of being genuinely interested and happy is great. Thank you
 

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Dam man I've been having the same problem lately. It's kind of weird, like I can't break this serious look on my face. Things can get real awkward when talking to people. When I force out a smile it feels even more awkward. I'm have no idea why this happens to me sometimes, but it seems to last for a period of time. Eventually I just don't think about it and it goes back to normal.

I hate it, and don't know why it happens. It may have to do with lack of happiness or it may just be anxiety and being self-conscious.
 

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Think of something that makes you smile (if you can't think of anything, just observe yourself for a few days until something comes up), and keep it in the back of your mind. Whenever you find you aren't smiling enough, just conjure that image in the back of your mind, and that will get you smiling. Also, remember to smile with your eyes and not just your mouth.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I remember a similar post where someone said to think while looking at the girl,

"I want to fuvk you in the ass like you owe me money"

it works, but im not taking any props for it
 
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