Are you young and in a relationship? Then READ THIS

[The Assistant]

This advice goes to out to all of you guys between 16 and 25, who have had limited success with women, but do find yourself in a committed relationship with a girl.

My first question to you all is - are you 100% happy, and is she being a perfect girlfriend and exactly what you want and need? If yes, then don't read further.....if no, then please read on.


Alot of young men like to use the following excuse when describing a girlfriend who is either not on her best behavior, or is just plain out being a total b1tch.......the old "we have been together for x years, we have to try and make it work because i've invested so much time in this relationship" argument.


I am going to put it nicely, every damn inexperienced young chump uses whenever his girlfriend is acting in a way that deserves for her azz to be dumped.

No one cares how many years you've WASTED (not invested, but wasted), you were too young to know what a bad relationship is, and you certainly don't know what a good one is. It takes YEARS of dating around, YEARS of experimenting, tweaking, getting to know dozens of girls on a personal and physical level, to even BEGIN to know how to have a happy and fulfilling relationship.

Really, any young man who is committed to some girl, in my book, falls under the category of "brainwashed and doesn't know any better".

so many guys come onto this forum, and post questions about their relationship issues.......well guess what? If you were in a good relationship, you wouldn't have relationship issues. PERIOD

You are young, YOU DON'T NEED THIS BULLSHYT IN YOUR LIFE. If you are with a girl, and she ever makes you feel crappy.......dump her, DUMP HER NOW.

The only time you should ever be committed to a girl, is when you have enough dating experience to back up your decisions, and you are able to be with a woman who makes you happy 100% completely. - this means the following:

no mood swings, no bytchiness, no suspicious behavior, no trust issues, no sexual issues, no controlling issues, no nagging......nothing, NONE OF THAT - THAT is when you know it's good to be committed to the woman.

Otherwise, you are just setting yourself up for misery with a woman who doesn't satisfy you in the ways that you need to be satisfied.

So, how much do you respect YOURSELF?

 

[Iceberg]

t of young men like to use the following excuse when describing a girlfriend who is either not on her best behavior, or is just plain out being a total b1tch.......the old "we have been together for x years, we have to try and make it work because i've invested so much time in this relationship" argument.

There is so much delicious truthiness in this post, I hope it doesn't get lost on a Friday night.

I've heard those exact "invested time" excuses from friends dealing with crappy g/f's. And don't get me wrong, my girlfriends have been great...relationships are nice to have. But man, a relationship isn't an investment. It's an expense. That's just how it is.

The only time you should ever be committed to a girl, is when you have enough dating experience to back up your decisions, and you are able to be with a woman who makes you happy 100% completely.

MORE TRUTH!

I hate when these guys who dated like 2 girls in their life accept crappy behavior from a woman because of "love". F*** that. They don't know what "love" is. Love doesn't treat you poorly. It doesn't leave you with doubt. Make you wonder if she likes you or if she's cheating...that aint love. That's what some guys call "love" to justify taking crap from a woman.

 

[JustLurk]

There is so much delicious truthiness in this post, I hope it doesn't get lost on a Friday night.

I've heard those exact "invested time" excuses from friends dealing with crappy g/f's.

This is sound advice for anything involving any investment. You see this in people paying mortgage payments or shelling out large amounts of cash because of previous investments. In life and economics, don't consider any previous investments, consider the current cost. If the current cost wouldn't be acceptable to you, then regardless of the invested loss, drop it. You see this in economics, influence, scams and schemes, and it's basically a control fallacy people use against people. Of course, the slight exception is for huge investments.. By all means drop 1k to finish off a million investment even if you wouldn't have dropped 1k for it previously.

 

[runner83]

Very good post.

Be willing to walk away at any signs of disrespect since there are many other girls out there.

Put your own needs first.

Girl decides to start withholding s*x and not respecting your s*xual needs as a man? - Walk away

Girl disrespects you? - Walk away

Endless nagging, bvtching etc - Walk away


Put your own needs first.

 

[nismo-4]

Judge nismo knows that most young guys in unhappy relationships stay that way because they fear being unable to get a girl, they fear loneliness, want to be loved, etc. Limited success and little choosing power can be a factor here. But you need to get a lot of options. Don't get pu$$y whipped.

On the upside, having a girlfriend grants you immunity to your friends' jokes about you not having a girl as well as showing other females that you're a desirable male. Draw the line somewhere and lay down the law, if you're a man.

Case closed. Take control dammit!

 

[seraphim]

Words to live by.Great post

Judge nismo knows that most young guys in unhappy relationships stay that way because they fear being unable to get a girl, they fear loneliness, want to be loved, etc. Limited success and little choosing power can be a factor here. But you need to get a lot of options. Don't get pu$$y whipped.

On the upside, having a girlfriend grants you immunity to your friends' jokes about you not having a girl as well as showing other females that you're a desirable male. Draw the line somewhere and lay down the law, if you're a man.

Case closed. Take control dammit!

I agree with you %100 Judge nismo. But in my experience, most of the guys I know who are prone to making jokes like that have girlfriends I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole.I should get some more cool friends for the new year

 

[EA Gold]

Not necessarily true, I've heard of guy's marrying their high school sweet heart and live happily ever after. Then again this was decades ago, before cellphones, texting, and facebook.

If your man enough and have enough determination, you can make anything workout.

 

[Brighty]

Not necessarily true, I've heard of guy's marrying their high school sweet heart and live happily ever after. Then again this was decades ago, before cellphones, texting, and facebook.

If your man enough and have enough determination, you can make anything workout.

True, my best friend's parents were high school sweethearts and got married in college. 25 years later his dad is still a badass and his mom is still sexy as all hell, it's pretty amazing how that worked out. It's instances like that that make me think that perhaps "true love" still exists out there in the world... and then I go out with my friends to the on-campus bar on the weekends.

It's amusing just how dead romance is in our generation. I'm sure my grandparents fondly remembered their first kiss after courting and I'm sure it was over a classy dinner with Frank Sinatra in the background. I guarantee in 40 years when our generation recants the story of how they met their spouse to their kids - if they were honest - a good 40-50% of them would say "Well we were both drunk and we just got finished dry humping each other on the dance floor. As I lead your mother to the bathroom in the back of the club... there was something about the way her glazed eyes were looking at me... I just knew right then and there that she was the one."

I like being single, but if princess charming comes along then you can bet that I'd give it up for her. The real problem is finding her amidst all of the ke$ha wannabes, slvts, psycho girls, alcoholics, party girls, and all of the other women out there.

 

[Iceberg]

It's amusing just how dead romance is in our generation. I'm sure my grandparents fondly remembered their first kiss after courting and I'm sure it was over a classy dinner with Frank Sinatra in the background. I guarantee in 40 years when our generation recants the story of how they met their spouse to their kids - if they were honest - a good 40-50% of them would say "Well we were both drunk and we just got finished dry humping each other on the dance floor. As I lead your mother to the bathroom in the back of the club... there was something about the way her glazed eyes were looking at me... I just knew right then and there that she was the one."

We all like to think of past generations as being more pure and respectful,but trust me...people were boning then just like they're boning now.

Humans are humans. The same instincts that drive us today were the same ones that were driving us 1,000 years ago.

 

[Brighty]

We all like to think of past generations as being more pure and respectful,but trust me...people were boning then just like they're boning now.

Humans are humans. The same instincts that drive us today were the same ones that were driving us 1,000 years ago.

I'm not denying that, but at least there was some semblance of class back then.