are you still friendly w people who rejected you?

[PlatoPacks23]

in social circle (ish) situation, girl ive been into agreed to make plans with me and and then the night before asked for a rain check without offering a reschedule. I had given it a few months in between and had a similar-ish situation with her where we made plans but she was like "its gonna be quick etc" and I just sorta blew it off.

anyway bottom line is this isn't going anywhere BUT this is somewhere I'm seeing fairly often, maybe 3-4 x a week.

Do I just ignore her moving forward? I just dont agree w idea of pretending everything is as is and normal and continuing to I guess.. acquiesce to her how I was before.

Not saying to be mean or anything, just flat out ignoring her.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Do I just ignore her moving forward? I just dont agree w idea of pretending everything is as is and normal and continuing to I guess.. acquiesce to her how I was before.

What are you pretending about? The only thing that could be abnormal is your reaction. So if your feelings are hurt somehow, do what you gotta do I guess.

I've been rejected plenty of times and to me it's no hard feelings. I don't even mind being quote-unquote friends. Plenty of women out there.

 

[filerfiler]

Act as if nothing happened. Completely platonic. Don’t give her free or special attention though.

 

[SW15]

No, I am not.

I don't date through social circle though.

When I have been rejected, it has been off of online arranged dates ("one date, no sex, no second date") or having in-person approaches rejected. When I approach strangers, I don't tend to see those strangers again while living my life.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Your numbers should be so high, make insane plans such that you forget you made plans with someone specific yourself. They should be the ones to follow up. If they don’t, well hey you don’t remember and probably are with someone enthusiastic.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Since it's your social circle, you have to remain cordial at minimum to maintain the cohesion & chemistry of the social circle. The minute you start becoming bitter is when you will start to get less invites and eventually cut off. In social circles, unless you are a Chad that all the women want to bang, they will always side with the woman.

 

[The Duke]

in social circle (ish) situation, girl ive been into agreed to make plans with me and and then the night before asked for a rain check without offering a reschedule. I had given it a few months in between and had a similar-ish situation with her where we made plans but she was like "its gonna be quick etc" and I just sorta blew it off.

anyway bottom line is this isn't going anywhere BUT this is somewhere I'm seeing fairly often, maybe 3-4 x a week.

Do I just ignore her moving forward? I just dont agree w idea of pretending everything is as is and normal and continuing to I guess.. acquiesce to her how I was before.

Not saying to be mean or anything, just flat out ignoring her.

Its weak people that communicate like this. Most see this as the easier path to take because they are fearful of repercussions(Fearful Avoidant) or worried about offending someone. A "sorry, your are great but I'm not interested in anything" would go be a lot more respectful but thats not what you get.

You have to get to a point where it doesn't bother you. Just realize that is who they are and that is how they communicate. Within a social circle, I'd be cordial to them but never forget. I don't care to hang around weak people who can't say what they mean.

Think of it as a blessing that they showed who they were because they end up doing the same thing in committed relationships.

 

[BPH]

2 points I want you to think about:

1. Why do you want to spend time with people who don't want to spend time with you?
2. If you're romantically interested in this girl you're not friends - just friendzoned

It's one thing if you're such good friends with this social circle and she's just part of it, but if you're part of this social circle BECAUSE you're interested in her then I wouldn't continue wasting my time.

 

[corrector]

You can continue acknowledging each other just don't be too clingy about it if she throws a breadcrumb your way or too bothered by it if she is showing attention/affection to another guy.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

No, Im not friendly with women who have rejected me. Its not that Im butthurt (I dont think so, anyways), I think its more of a mix of they annoy me and What´s the point?

Consider the following scenario: You try to pull an HB7 or whatever number. She rejects you, she puts you in the friendzone, she wants to keep you around as an orbiter. But sometime later you pull a yonger, better girl as a plate or LTR. Why would you want to spend any time at all with the girl who rejected you? Unless you can see any benefit somehow

 

[Hamurabimbi]

yes.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

in social circle (ish) situation, girl ive been into agreed to make plans with me and and then the night before asked for a rain check without offering a reschedule. I had given it a few months in between and had a similar-ish situation with her where we made plans but she was like "its gonna be quick etc" and I just sorta blew it off.

anyway bottom line is this isn't going anywhere BUT this is somewhere I'm seeing fairly often, maybe 3-4 x a week.

Do I just ignore her moving forward? I just dont agree w idea of pretending everything is as is and normal and continuing to I guess.. acquiesce to her how I was before.

Not saying to be mean or anything, just flat out ignoring her.

Mode One.

You lost power with her, and Mode One is the only way you can get sense of power.. regardless of the outcome.

 

[Clockwerk50]

It sounds like you like her and have a bad case of oneitis.

I don't see any reason not to keep things polite at the bare minimum - unless feelings are imvolved. Especially considering you asked her out twice for low-investment, low-effort hangouts...

Just don’t ask her to hang out anymore.

 

[Chow Mein]

Just don’t ask her to hang out anymore.

Dude dug his grave. If he was just living his life without worrying about her response, he could have had his pie and eaten it too!
@Scaramouche I’ve come to type like you, while half yur elderberries lol

 

[Isildur1]

I mean typically from daygame out of 80 approaches around 75 women would reject me - so I expect similar statistics in social circle, any approach you do in general in any situation is highly likely to yield rejection just carry on like nothing has happened.

Fast majority of game is facing rejections out of my entire life (im 32) I've had about 3 women in social circles even want to date me and with all 3 I was too slow to pull the trigger and f'ed it up - people need to learn to stop focusing on little defeats and move forward and actually create options

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Mode One.

You lost power with her, and Mode One is the only way you can get sense of power.. regardless of the outcome.

I did mode one, and got rejected basally but it just made me angry lol so now.. feels like im in mode 4? idk

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I did mode one, and got rejected basally but it just made me angry lol so now.. feels like im in mode 4? idk

Mode One won't prevent rejection, nor is there any single method that will.

Mode One allows you to cut through the bullshiit, and let's you know where you stand with the woman before you are 3 dates in, and your bank account is $120-$180 lighter.

Every man gets rejected..just move on and talk to other women.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Mode One won't prevent rejection, nor is there any single method that will.

Mode One allows you to cut through the bullshiit, and let's you know where you stand with the woman before you are 3 dates in, and your bank account is $120-$180 lighter.

Every man gets rejected..just move on and talk to other women.

I mean my point is that she's in social circle w me so thats the idea of a thread

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I mean my point is that she's in social circle w me so thats the idea of a thread

I'll remove myself from this convo, because social circles ain't my forte.

 

[DreamAgain]

Mode One won't prevent rejection, nor is there any single method that will.

Mode One allows you to cut through the bullshiit, and let's you know where you stand with the woman before you are 3 dates in, and your bank account is $120-$180 lighter.

Every man gets rejected..just move on and talk to other women.

The master has spoken.