"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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bignick79

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Hey guys!

Been a while since i posted but I had an interesting one come up the other day.

I've learned a lot of techniques here that work wonders. I used this one and it caught me off guard a little, but it seemed to work.

I had a thing for this girl about a year or so ago, but she didn't feel the same way at the time, she had a b/f and all that drama. Anyhow, I have been seeing someone over the last 2 months. I had to call my "friend" on an unrelated issue and she asked me, how was my girlfriend? I told her we were having fun and things were going good. Her next question proceeded to be, "Is she spending the nite at your apartment?" That kinda threw me a little, I didn't confirm nor deny it, just like left it real ambigous.

Just wondering what you guys think about this...what is she thinking?

Nick
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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jophil28

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I think that your"friend" is showing the female compulsive need to know who is screwing who. She MIGHT be a tad jealous but then who knows with women !!


"The greater truth is in their behavior"
 

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Her: "Hmm...could he having sex? I don't know, lets ask a question"

Possible Routes..
"That's nice..."
"OMG, I want to have sex with him, damnit"
"That stupid biatch..I want to stab her"
"Haha, she wants to have sex with him!!! :crackup:"

Case in Point, that's all you know.
 

Latinoman

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I don't know...why didn't you ask her?

Some women like attention and want ONLY attention...as well as ALL the attention.

Attention is more of an ego thing. Does not get men laid.
 

Desdinova

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Social Proof can work in strange ways. This friend's IL may go up, or she may just want to be playful. You can use situations like this to raise her IL more...

Her: Is she spending the nite at your apartment?
You: Why? Do you want in on some of the fun? ;)

What you're doing here is playfully suggesting that she's missing out. It encourages her mind to wander and think about what you'd be like in bed.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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realsmoothie

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Sometimes you have to watch out, though... some girls who have less than ideal self-esteem don't take to bragging like this.

I was seeing this one girl, we hit a bit of a hitch due to our schedules and that kind of thing. So we weren't seeing each other, then there was a point where we might have started again and I let it slip that I'd been seeing some other girls in between. I did this by saying that I'd been seeing other girls but didn't like them as much as her...

...but then later in conversation she says something to the effect of "well, you seem to be having fun anyway" with this REALLY bitter look on her face. It was almost like she was implying I shouldn't have been seeing anyone, even though she'd flaked on me for two weeks.

Girls' egos are funny things. Watch out for the ones with low self-esteem.
 

JustDoItAlways

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Never, ever, ever, ever "Kiss and Tell."

Your girl will not appreciate hearing from everyone how great her *******s are or how often she gives it up.

Other women will mentally check you off their list if they hear you bragging about your latest conquest.

The less you say about your conquests, the more you get laid.

Just be mysterious about it.
 

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realsmoothie said:
Sometimes you have to watch out, though... some girls who have less than ideal self-esteem don't take to bragging like this.

I was seeing this one girl, we hit a bit of a hitch due to our schedules and that kind of thing. So we weren't seeing each other, then there was a point where we might have started again and I let it slip that I'd been seeing some other girls in between. I did this by saying that I'd been seeing other girls but didn't like them as much as her...

...but then later in conversation she says something to the effect of "well, you seem to be having fun anyway" with this REALLY bitter look on her face. It was almost like she was implying I shouldn't have been seeing anyone, even though she'd flaked on me for two weeks.

Girls' egos are funny things. Watch out for the ones with low self-esteem.

Her self esteem issues are exactly that, her issues. If she asks, and you feel like answering, tough luck if she doesn't approve. A lot of them will purposely ask that as a $hit test, and others want to know for ego purposes, either way, the guy wil be judged on his response, both to her questions, and his response to her "jealous" response.

Wether you answer yes directly or indirectly, her knowing that she's not the only game in town will actually increase her interest in you. Jealousy is a powerful thing. Before you answer, you can actually put her to the test, and figure out why she's asking, then you can use her issues to your advantage, if you want. Always be in control.

Don't try to protect her ego because she's jealous, insecure, nosy, fragile, has the need attention, etc. Use her personality flaws to your advantage. She's only looking out for herself, so should you.
 

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jophil28 said:
I think that your"friend" is showing the female compulsive need to know who is screwing who. She MIGHT be a tad jealous but then who knows with women !!


"The greater truth is in their behavior"
GOLD!
 

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That doesn't mean anything dude. She just is being nosy, and wants attention. I noticed that all the girls I ever banged came easy. And the ones that gave me the mixed signal I didn't bang most of them. Woman love to play games.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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