Are You Man Enough To Use The Direct Method?

[librito]

I will tell you the best advise that I can give anybody that wants to improve his situation with women...
why is THIS the best advise coming from myself? I was stuck in all the pick up bull crap AND DJ STUFF for 4 years and this step was the only one that got me where I really wanted to be..... this method is very simple but you need to have the balls of steel just to try it....
women are as simple as men and thats the reason we shouldnt be running around in circles and hiding our real intentions...

THEY KNOW WHAT WE WANT THE SECOND WE START A CONVERSATION WHITH THEM. all this nonesence about not showing interest right away is bull crap. ALSO,,,, AS MOST WOMEN SAY AND BELieVE ME I ASKED A BUNCH OF THEM....women know if you have a chance to fuk them within the first 5 minutes of knowing you.
with all that said...

the method that changed my life is
THE DIRECT METHOD.
ALL, AND I MEAN ALL OF MY APROACHES START WITH THIS SENTENCE.

"excuse me, I just noticed that you were here like about 30 seconds ago{{{or you put whatever timing you wish)))))) and the first thing that came to my mind is that I gotta get to know you, thats the reason why Im talking to you right now. whats your name?

why do I love this method so much? becuase its direct and to the point.
once you tell them this they know exactly what you want and they know they cant play games with you or waist your time.

the other good thing about this is that they will reject you within the first 4 minutes of meeting you by telling you that they have a boyfriend (never ask them if they do have one) or some other bull CRAP OR
THE
CONVERSATIONS WILL GO STRAIGHT TO RAPPORT BECAUSE SHE WILL BE AMAZED BY YOUR COURAGE TO START A CONVERSATION WITH HER THE WAY YOU DID...

notice that most probably noone EVER TALK TO HER THIS WAY BEFORE.
the only trick to make this method effective is that you have to appear as confident as possible and to start appearing as confident as you can you will have to USE THIS method like about 5 to 10 different TIMES
AND THEN YOULL START TO UNDERSTAND HOW IT WORKS AND HOW POWERFUL IT IS. YOU WILL SAVE YOURSAVE A LOT OF TIME ONCE YOU START DOING THIS....
THIS IS SO EFFECTIVE THAT MOST TIMES YOU WILL KNOW FOR SURE IF YOU ARE GOING TO BE ABLE TO GET HER PHONE NUMBER WITHIN THE FIRST 2 MINUTES OF MEETING HER.
SHE WILL START TO GIVE YOU INDICATIONS OF INTEREST OR DISINTEREST ALMOST INMEDIATELY.
TRY IT AND LET ME KNOW HOW IT GOES.

 

[SharinganUser]

So we should just walk up to women and say "Hey, I'm SharinganUser, I am talking to you because I want to have sex with you."

 

[librito]

So we should just walk up to women and say "Hey, I'm SharinganUser, I am talking to you because I want to have sex with you."

if you say it this way then youll most likely fail most times.

but,,if you say it the way I do then you will succeed in getting at least their phone numbers most times.

HAVE YOU EVER HEARD THE FOLLOWING???

"ITS NOT WHAT YOU SAY THAT MATTERS, ITS THE WAY YOU SAY IT"

 

[JackPrescott]

So we should just walk up to women and say "Hey, I'm SharinganUser, I am talking to you because I want to have sex with you."

Sure. A lot of times, they know what you want, and you know what you want, and drinks and small talk and all the rest is just par for the course. A woman I once nailed, just went up to me, and started talking and flirting heavily. We finally came together, about 2 weeks later. It started with a light kiss, and ended with a crazy Valentine's night in the missionary position.

 

[Alphamale1821]

true enough bro direct is the best way to go, can cut down on alot of the bull****. But it takes confidence and it's not a bunch of techniques and line like most people think it is. Fuucking confidence and being direct is what its really all about.

 

[SharinganUser]

if you say it this way then youll most likely fail most times.

but,,if you say it the way I do then you will succeed in getting at least their phone numbers most times.

HAVE YOU EVER HEARD THE FOLLOWING???

"ITS NOT WHAT YOU SAY THAT MATTERS, ITS THE WAY YOU SAY IT"

Yes, I have heard that. My point was that being direct with your words won't work most of the time.

First you say it's better to go up to a woman and directly state your intentions, and now you are saying that it doesn't matter what you say.

You have to be direct and confident with your attitude, if you do that, then you can decide if it's better to be direct or play cat and mouse.

With a lot of women, if you aren't hard to get and not playing cat and mouse, then they will interpret that DIRECTLY as "No chemistry" and then you won't get anywhere.

When ever I decide to buy a woman a drink at the bar, I Never ask to do it, and I could give a **** wether she actually wants the drink, just means more for me. I buy the drink and give it to them with a "you're gonna drink this and like it wether you want to or not" kind of attitude.

My point is that if you are direct with your attitude, you don't have to be direct with your words. It's the difference between acting like you are the prize and telling her that you are the prize. It doesn't matter if you say "I wanna get to know you better, that's why I am talking to you" and "hey, let's get together (w/e day/time)"

 

[librito]

THE GOOD thing about this method is that once I open the girl with it, I can basically talk about coffins and dead people and she would still know that my intentions are to become her boyfriend in the near future.

I already showed my sexuality and because of that, I just relax and fluff talk about anything and still be fine...

whenever I open this way and I keep on pushing my sexuality very fast then they get away from me becuase they think that "I tell that to all the girls" because Im too "smooth"
this method is good because it allows you to throw your best punch during the first second of the first round,
if you miss you will lose the fight but if you connected then your oponent will be hurt, after that its all a piece of cake.
I love to see their faces and the way they blush in less than 15 seconds of meeting me because they expect me to say the same wussy crap that all the afcs say to them.
whoever tries this will be amazed at how effective it is.

the last time I tried this on sunday the girl put a *****y face even before I opened my mouth. she knew I was going to start a conversation with her. (((( she started looking to the ceiling, making faces, as if I was going to anoy her))
she blushed inmediately after I was done with my sentence and extended her hand to me and told me her name ....
that was a solid number close without me giving her any more indications of interests.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

^+1 Topic Creator. As a guy still getting there to become full out successful with Direct, so far...i've loved it. Its greating seeing the girl's reactions. Whats even better is that it works the best on the hottest girls! Just their eyes widening and then asking you, "What's your name?" Makes it worthwhile! And yea, since they know ur into them flat out...why even try to DHV, wat u did was a DHV, imo. What guy direct openers a girl like that? Most don't. I wouldn't confuse a drunk guy saying ur hot as true direct or a guy just flat out saying a compliment and thats it.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

But SharingUser...if u see a girl u find truly stunning, why not tell her? Its what ur feeling in the moment? Why not be honest with that? Sure, yea...its how u come across..but why not just say it as well?

 

[SharinganUser]

DJC, you missed my points completely.

Why tell her something she already knows?

What if she is truely disgusting and you hated every bone in her body? Why not tell her? Its what ur feeling in the moment? Why not be honest with that? Sure, yea...its how u come across..but why not just say it as well?

 

[ChrizZ]

I used to be against Direct Method.

Then I tried it.

Now it's the only thing I do. I always say what I'm thinking and it works. Direct is not for the weak hearted though. I doubt many people on here have the balls to stop a woman on the street and tell her she's sexy.

 

[LeComteDeMonteCristo]

For me the "direct method" is the only method.

 

[LeComteDeMonteCristo]

I used to be against Direct Method.

Then I tried it.

I can see that being true for a lot of people.

A lot of posts I see criticizing direct method reek of keyboard jockeying.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

DJC, you missed my points completely.

Why tell her something she already knows?

What if she is truely disgusting and you hated every bone in her body? Why not tell her? Its what ur feeling in the moment? Why not be honest with that? Sure, yea...its how u come across..but why not just say it as well?

I wasn't specific. I meant if its a random girl u see and have never met and found attractive. If you thought she was disguisting, why would u even go over to her at all? I'm talking about when u want to seduce her. I just didn't address all ur points.

Yes, I have heard that. My point was that being direct with your words won't work most of the time.

This from your personal experience? Just because it didn't work as well for some people, doesn't mean it wouldn't for other people. its like indirect, it hasn't worked as well as direct for me. Because from my experience...direct def can work a majority of the time...its just the other stuff u gotta fine tune as in any part of seduction.

First you say it's better to go up to a woman and directly state your intentions, and now you are saying that it doesn't matter what you say.

You have to be direct and confident with your attitude, if you do that, then you can decide if it's better to be direct or play cat and mouse.

With a lot of women, if you aren't hard to get and not playing cat and mouse, then they will interpret that DIRECTLY as "No chemistry" and then you won't get anywhere.

I personally think as time goes on, that dynamic will be natural for us. Cat and Mouse is engrained into all of us. But why would they not consider it chemistry at all? Explain

When ever I decide to buy a woman a drink at the bar, I Never ask to do it, and I could give a **** wether she actually wants the drink, just means more for me. I buy the drink and give it to them with a "you're gonna drink this and like it wether you want to or not" kind of attitude.

There u go

My point is that if you are direct with your attitude, you don't have to be direct with your words. It's the difference between acting like you are the prize and telling her that you are the prize. It doesn't matter if you say "I wanna get to know you better, that's why I am talking to you" and "hey, let's get together (w/e day/time)"

Even if u don't have to, if its what u want to do...why not just do that? I believe a majority of women would like to hear a guy open her direct. Why else would their eyes dialate and be shocked like that when u open her like that? So yea, if ur attitude is direct...u won't have to say it at times...but if its wat u want to say and feels most natural to you...why not just do that?

But yea, most guys don't got the balls to be direct. Its funny when i talk with some indirect guys, they'll say it wouldn't work but most of them haven't even tried it. Don't knock it till u try it. Hell, some indirect guys wouldn't admit the success of Direct. Even TylerDurden at RSD, which they do natural game mostly now, can't even flat out admit that he's doing direct now and that one of the first time's he did it...it went so well that he couldn't believe it yet partially couldn't accept it.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

I can see that being true for a lot of people.

A lot of posts I see criticizing direct method reek of keyboard jockeying.

I absolutely agree. Also, some guys kinda have a dillusion of direct.
Direct,imo, is going up to the girl...facing her....looking right into her eyes and showing ur interest right at the start, confidentally. Not, just going up to her from the side and just complimenting her and thats it, in a non-sober state or in a half ass way. Thats what the indirect guys think of it as.

 

[DonGorgon]

i use that method if the woman shows strong interest first ....

 

[AgonyUncle]

Yes, I have heard that. My point was that being direct with your words won't work most of the time.

First you say it's better to go up to a woman and directly state your intentions, and now you are saying that it doesn't matter what you say.

You have to be direct and confident with your attitude, if you do that, then you can decide if it's better to be direct or play cat and mouse.

With a lot of women, if you aren't hard to get and not playing cat and mouse, then they will interpret that DIRECTLY as "No chemistry" and then you won't get anywhere.

When ever I decide to buy a woman a drink at the bar, I Never ask to do it, and I could give a **** wether she actually wants the drink, just means more for me. I buy the drink and give it to them with a "you're gonna drink this and like it wether you want to or not" kind of attitude.

My point is that if you are direct with your attitude, you don't have to be direct with your words. It's the difference between acting like you are the prize and telling her that you are the prize. It doesn't matter if you say "I wanna get to know you better, that's why I am talking to you" and "hey, let's get together (w/e day/time)"

You are confusing dating/the bar scene with cold approaching!!!

Are you going to play cat and mouse with a woman in a department store or on the street? Of course not. You going to walk up and try and make conversation, with the aim of landing a number within a minute or so (You are a busy guy, and do need to scoot after all) The direct approach is just one type of approach. Its not a bad one either to be quite honest, as long as its not vulgar or does not come across as creepy. I have been direct with results, othertimes not. I have come to the conclusion that almost any opener works if its done the right way. If she likes the look of you, is avalible and you come across as being anything but socially inept, you will get her digits in most cases. Its always hit and miss.

As for buying women drinks and thinking "you going to drink this and like this" attitude? WAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. That just made my day. Trust me mate, she does not feel grateful for the drink, she expects it. If not you, some other chump will buy her one. Maybe need to be reading a little and approaching a bit more before you start offering advice son. You sound like you are pretty clueless

 

[SharinganUser]

You are confusing dating/the bar scene with cold approaching!!!

Are you going to play cat and mouse with a woman in a department store or on the street? Of course not. You going to walk up and try and make conversation, with the aim of landing a number within a minute or so (You are a busy guy, and do need to scoot after all)

Of course I am not going to just play cat and mouse with a girl I just met on the street, but I am also not going to directly tell her that I want to sleep with her or date her. She might not be worth sleeping with or dating.

The direct approach is just one type of approach. Its not a bad one either to be quite honest, as long as its not vulgar or does not come across as creepy. I have been direct with results, othertimes not. I have come to the conclusion that almost any opener works if its done the right way. If she likes the look of you, is avalible and you come across as being anything but socially inept, you will get her digits in most cases. Its always hit and miss.

I agree with most of what you say here it, as it is repeating what I said in my other posts. Any opener can work if it's done with the right attitude. My best results come from joking arround with them(C+F), even for a couple of minutes and then expressing myself directly. I like to mix it up, being indirect and direct. Being unpredictable can be an advantage.

As for buying women drinks and thinking "you going to drink this and like this" attitude? WAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. That just made my day. Trust me mate, she does not feel grateful for the drink, she expects it. If not you, some other chump will buy her one. Maybe need to be reading a little and approaching a bit more before you start offering advice son. You sound like you are pretty clueless

You missed my point completely. It is the same principle as making any other approach. You do it with confidence, and it will work most of the time. I NEVER ask a girl if I can buy her a drink, I NEVER get the waiter to deliver it, and I always buy her ugo friend a drink too. But most importantly I RARELY buy anyone anything. Whenever I do something for a chick, it comes from a place of confidence, not from insecurity.

Confidence is key to attraction.

 

[AgonyUncle]

Of course I am not going to just play cat and mouse with a girl I just met on the street, but I am also not going to directly tell her that I want to sleep with her or date her. She might not be worth sleeping with or dating.

Oh FFS. You are not telling her outright that you want to **** her. You are showing her that you are interested and attracted. You did that when you approached her bud. If she finds you attractive and she is availible, and you have not come across as a social retard, you will get her number.

There is no cat and mouse with a cold approach (bars and clubs excluded!) You are a lion, she is a wounded antelope. You go for the kill (her number, the date setup right there) or you go home.

I agree with most of what you say here it, as it is repeating what I said in my other posts. Any opener can work if it's done with the right attitude. My best results come from joking arround with them(C+F), even for a couple of minutes and then expressing myself directly. I like to mix it up, being indirect and direct. Being unpredictable can be an advantage.

C+F cant be used until you have built up rapport with a woman in many cases. Using C+F on complete strangers is even more risky then a direct approach! You dont have time to build rapport when you hitting on chicks outside of clubs/bars/parties.

She knows you like her if you approach her. She knows you want to shag her. Approaching her, only to "Be direct and then indirect" comes across as unnatural. Its socially inept lad. It only works if you have built rapport with a woman!

Can C+F be used cold? Of course it can. It depends on her personality though, her mood, your ability to be playful. Its best avoided by guys starting out with cold approachs!

You missed my point completely. It is the same principle as making any other approach. You do it with confidence, and it will work most of the time. I NEVER ask a girl if I can buy her a drink, I NEVER get the waiter to deliver it, and I always buy her ugo friend a drink too. But most importantly I RARELY buy anyone anything. Whenever I do something for a chick, it comes from a place of confidence, not from insecurity.

Confidence is key to attraction.

And if it looks rehersed and awkward, you are dead in the water. Sorry, but you misunderstood the OP's post completely. You are trying to apply "methods" you have picked up for almost any situation. It simply does not work that way.

Direct game WORKS if the SITUATION for it is right. Suggesting that one should play cat and mouse when you have 2 minutes to close the deal is ridiculous.

Go read the bible a bit more please. You are on the right track, you just need to put things into perspective a little more.

 

[qstorm501]

You are confusing dating/the bar scene with cold approaching!!!

Are you going to play cat and mouse with a woman in a department store or on the street? Of course not. You going to walk up and try and make conversation, with the aim of landing a number within a minute or so (You are a busy guy, and do need to scoot after all) The direct approach is just one type of approach. Its not a bad one either to be quite honest, as long as its not vulgar or does not come across as creepy. I have been direct with results, othertimes not. I have come to the conclusion that almost any opener works if its done the right way. If she likes the look of you, is avalible and you come across as being anything but socially inept, you will get her digits in most cases. Its always hit and miss.

As for buying women drinks and thinking "you going to drink this and like this" attitude? WAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. That just made my day. Trust me mate, she does not feel grateful for the drink, she expects it. If not you, some other chump will buy her one. Maybe need to be reading a little and approaching a bit more before you start offering advice son. You sound like you are pretty clueless

VERY well put. So what are you gonna do when you stop and interrupt a HB while she is in the middle of shopping, and is in a rush because she has places to be.Are you gonna sit there in the middle of the isle for 10 min using C&F ..no! You try to close and get the number as soon as possible and i believe direct is the most efficient way for this. Women are not STUPID THEY know when a stranger who is a guy approaches them what that guys wants. Be a MAN let them know what you want they can either accept it or not!

Now bars and clubs are a different thing usually you are stationary in the same place for several hours and so is the HB, So you have time to run all kinda routines C&F , and whatnot