Are you making the effort?

[Duke]

I have all these girls who I could *potentially* hook up with,
BUT...........

I've simply never made the effort to call them up, ask them out, and get them alone. Why not? I've made excuses for myself.
"Oh, she'll be busy that night."
"Maybe she won't be busy, but she'll lie to me and make up some excuse to not see me."
"She already has a b/f (even if I don't know)."
"I'm not feeling up to the task of seeing going out with any girls this week."
"I don't need girls to have fun (true, but out of context)."
"Maybe my friend is going after her."

SCREW ALL OF THAT. It's all EXCUSES I made up for myself to prevent me from PUTTING MYSELF ON THE LINE. F*ck it all. I could be enjoying so much more success right now if only I'd give girls the time of day and take the risk. If I get rejected, so what. It's better than not knowing.

I encourage you to take the risk. Maybe there's a girl you find cute and funny that you've always liked, but you never wanted to ask her out because if she rejected you, you'd be DEVASTATED. F*ck it. Think of the rewards you could reap from simply TAKING THE RISK.

Tonight, I danced with a HB9 at a party. My brother knows I go to this site, so he was teasing me by calling me "Don Juan." In my head, I just said "You know what, f*ck you" and I GOT OFF MY ASS AND MADE THE EFFORT AND TOOK THE RISK, and I asked the HB9 to dance with me.

Did she spit in my face and exclaim, "You're ugly!!"? No. Did she lean away from me and say, "Ummm, sorry. I have a boyfriend." NO.

She extended her hand to me with a HUGE smile on her face and said, "Sure, I'd love to dance!!" We had a great conversation, and she thanked me for the dance afterwards.

My brother stood corrected. When I sat back down, he asked "How did you know her? She's pretty hot." To which I replied, "I didn't know her. Now I do." Because...I MADE THE EFFORT AND TOOK THE RISK. You've really got nothing to lose. Really.

I encourage you to call up every girl you've ever wanted to spend a night with. Even if you doubt yourself. The chances are very good that you're underestimating your potential. Make the effort and take the risk. Don't be afraid to put yourself on the line. Think of the rewards.

 

[Duke]

bump

 

[jakethasnake]

Good post. Although this may not be enough as far as intermediate-advanced PU skills go, this is a good motivational point for actually taking that first step of talking to women. Good post for beginning DJs and RAFCs.



* By the way, as a side point, I think this won't make much of a difference if an individual happend to be 20 pounds overweight or was other just out-wardly very unappealing. If you have your out-ward appearance sorted out, i.e. you're in at least decent shape after trying hard at the gym, have an updated wardrobe, etc. - then you're good to go and use this post as motivation. But if you're visually just disgusting to women b/c you haven't worked on yourself, then you'll fail even if you read this post to psyche yourself up.

 

[Duke]

Originally posted by jakethasnake
Good post. Although this may not be enough as far as intermediate-advanced PU skills go, this is a good motivational point for actually taking that first step of talking to women. Good post for beginning DJs and RAFCs.



* By the way, as a side point, I think this won't make much of a difference if an individual happend to be 20 pounds overweight or was other just out-wardly very unappealing. If you have your out-ward appearance sorted out, i.e. you're in at least decent shape after trying hard at the gym, have an updated wardrobe, etc. - then you're good to go and use this post as motivation. But if you're visually just disgusting to women b/c you haven't worked on yourself, then you'll fail even if you read this post to psyche yourself up.

That can be said for most anything involving seduction. If you don't take care of yourself physically, then you'll have a more difficult time attracting women.

This post is directed at guys who are confident in their abilities with women already, but have gotten too satisfied with their results; the guys who have stagnated-- through no real fault of their own aside from lack of motivation-- and who know that they can progress and get even MORE women.

 

[jakethasnake]

Originally posted by Duke



"Oh, she'll be busy that night."
"Maybe she won't be busy, but she'll lie to me and make up some excuse to not see me."
"She already has a b/f (even if I don't know)."
"I'm not feeling up to the task of seeing going out with any girls this week."
"I don't need girls to have fun (true, but out of context)."
"Maybe my friend is going after her."

I dunno about that, Duke. Would an advanced DJ utter the above to himself when he has a girl's number? Probably not - if he decides not to call a girl it would more likely be for the following reasons:


"I'm too busy with that company progress evaluation that's due the day after tommorrow..."

"I feel like hanging out with my friend Rick today... fvck hanging out with girls today."


"I'm going to that Motorhead concert tonight.... women don't belong there anyway. Besides, I would be SCARED if a chick liked Motorhead! "



etc. etc. ...





On the other hand, most of your 'reasons' sound like rationalizations based on F-E-A-R. This isn't to knock your post - just to point out subtle differences. That's why I thought this post would be suitable for beginners, not advanced DJs.

 

[Hollowpoint]

Now you do the number close.....

 

[Ice Cold]

Same shyte here