"Are you mad at me?"

[darksprezzatura]

A plate I've been spinning for an year cancelled, but rescheduled on a time I think she knows I won't be available.

Seems genuine, I have 3 more plates lined up for the weekend, but this is the best one.

My response was no response, radio silence and I already see her hamster spinning with all the texts and Instagram posts she's sending me.

What's the next course of action for situations like these I'll be encountering with tons of new plates I'll be spinning later in my life?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

A plate I've been spinning for an year cancelled, but rescheduled on a time I think she knows I won't be available.

Seems genuine, I have 3 more plates lined up for the weekend, but this is the best one.

My response was no response, radio silence and I already see her hamster spinning with all the texts and Instagram posts she's sending me.

What's the next course of action for situations like these I'll be encountering with tons of new plates I'll be spinning later in my life?

How long has radio silence been?

 

[darksprezzatura]

How long has radio silence been?

30 minutes, I'm thinking just ghost her for a couple of days, hook with the others and let her make it up to me. If this plate crashes so be it.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

30 minutes, I'm thinking just ghost her for a couple of days, hook with the others and let her make it up to me. If this plate crashes so be it.

Perfect

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If she's a stable plate, then i'd just make a vague reschedule for next midweek.

Perfect . Bang a girl or two a few times this week. Focus on your tasks and objectives .

 

[RangerMIke]

For what it is worth if I have time to respond to a message, I will always do it when I get the message. I try not to think about what she might be doing or any inner purpose to her actions. I just focus, selfishly if you have to pick a word for it, on what I want. I really do not concern myself with what she wants or is trying to do. I always have in the back of your mind that she is playing some emotional/manipulative game... but that is her game, not mine. I really don't like things just hanging out there... I just don't have the time for it. I deal with things as they come to my attention, make a decision about my actions, then just move on.

If a chick cancels and counters with a time/place/date that doesn't work for you. Just tell her, then counter-counter with an alternative, then see what she does... will she think you are playing games with her? Sure, very likely... because that is what she would do. If what she is proposing works for you then go ahead and except. Sure she might be playing games... so what. It's what chicks do.

The only two rules... if you want to call it a rules... that I have with chicks is (1) I always assume she got my last message, if I didn't speak or communicate with her directly. If I counter-counter with an alternative and she doesn't get back with me... I just assume she is not interested and move on... I never text back again and ask the same question. I have to know if she is in our out... if she wants to play games she can go find another dude to play with. (2) I stay focused on what I want, if I'm not getting what I want from a chick, I will find another one.

 

[darksprezzatura]

For what it is worth if I have time to respond to a message, I will always do it when I get the message. I try not to think about what she might be doing or any inner purpose to her actions. I just focus, selfishly if you have to pick a word for it, on what I want. I really do not concern myself with what she wants or is trying to do. I always have in the back of your mind that she is playing some emotional/manipulative game... but that is her game, not mine. I really don't like things just hanging out there... I just don't have the time for it. I deal with things as they come to my attention, make a decision about my actions, then just move on.

If a chick cancels and counters with a time/place/date that doesn't work for you. Just tell her, then counter-counter with an alternative, then see what she does... will she think you are playing games with her? Sure, very likely... because that is what she would do. If what she is proposing works for you then go ahead and except. Sure she might be playing games... so what. It's what chicks do.

The only two rules... if you want to call it a rules... that I have with chicks is (1) I always assume she got my last message, if I didn't speak or communicate with her directly. If I counter-counter with an alternative and she doesn't get back with me... I just assume she is not interested and move on... I never text back again and ask the same question. I have to know if she is in our out... if she wants to play games she can go find another dude to play with. (2) I stay focused on what I want, if I'm not getting what I want from a chick, I will find another one.

Perfect . Bang a girl or two a few times this week. Focus on your tasks and objectives .

If she's a stable plate, then i'd just make a vague reschedule for next midweek.

These are some insightful yet varied responses.

I think I'm going to trust my gut and ghost her, sex isn't as important as my schedule and tasks.

I've already seen some red flags. I'm pretty sure, after the crazy sex tinted glasses lift further I'd say hindsight is 20/20 and that she was just farming me for attention.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

These are some insightful yet varied responses.

I think I'm going to trust my gut and ghost her, sex isn't as important as my schedule and tasks.

I've already seen some red flags. I'm pretty sure, after the crazy sex tinted glasses lift further I'd say hindsight is 20/20 and that she was just farming me for attention.

So the attention was more important than whatever sex or "good" moments?

 

[darksprezzatura]

So the attention was more important than whatever sex or "good" moments?

Basically the balance between the amount of sex I've been getting from her and the attention she's had is skewed in her favour. I've noticed some other red flags as well.

It's high time to drop her as the main plate and use that attention on myself.

What do you guys do when you drop a plate, just ghost her or stay in limited touch for old times/politeness sake?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Basically the balance between the amount of sex I've been getting from her and the attention she's had is skewed in her favour. I've noticed some other red flags as well.

It's high time to drop her and use that attention on myself.

I've decided to drop her for good. What do you guys do when you drop a plate completely, just ghost her or stay in limited touch for old times/politeness sake?

I'm not the pro at "rotations" ( plates ) . I've resisted it for a long time . But I see it's the way and the light, the right way to date in 2018. some men reframe her to sex only, give her zero validation outside of sex. If she's unreliable for sex to drop on all channels . Block on social media, block her phone and text.

 

[darksprezzatura]

I'm not the pro at "rotations" ( plates ) . I've resisted it for a long time . But I see it's the way and the light, the right way to date in 2018. some men reframe her to sex only, give her zero validation outside of sex. If she's unreliable for sex to drop on all channels . Block on social media, block her phone and text.

I'm edging towards the same outcome. BUT from the perspective of a man who has lots of girls lined up who can take her place, I think the best way to approach this is to just ghost her for a period of time, like a week, like completely ignore her.

There'd be two outcomes to that, either she'd ramp up and try making it upto me, or she'd disappear. Both are perfect for such a situation.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I'm edging towards the same outcome. BUT from the perspective of a man who has lots of girls lined up who can take her place, I think the best way to approach this is to just ghost her for a period of time, like a week, like completely ignore her.

There'd be two outcomes to that, either she'd ramp up and try making it upto me, or she'd disappear. Both are perfect for such a situation.

If you got girls 2-3 weeks is better .

 

[RangerMIke]

These are some insightful yet varied responses.

I think I'm going to trust my gut and ghost her, sex isn't as important as my schedule and tasks.

I've already seen some red flags. I'm pretty sure, after the crazy sex tinted glasses lift further I'd say hindsight is 20/20 and that she was just farming me for attention.

Well, the truth is we are all correct... it all depends on what a particular man wants. Always ask... what do you want, always go for what YOU want. For me.. I date to have fun... spend time with women that that share my interests, and if things work out... sex. If I find a chick that is no fun... or doesn't like the things I like... or we are not sexually compatible... or wants a committed relationship.... well I move on because there are lots of other women out there... you just have to find the ones that want the same thing. Really that's it.

I never focus on one woman, for me I approach dating as a collective effort I go after women, plural... the hardest thing for me is to offer advice to men that want relationships... I might not understand this, but if it is what a man wants... that's great... I really mean it. It's just not where I am in life, and any advice I give to him is not my expertise. If you want a relationship... take my advice with a grain of salt.

 

[flowtheory]

For what it is worth if I have time to respond to a message, I will always do it when I get the message. I try not to think about what she might be doing or any inner purpose to her actions. I just focus, selfishly if you have to pick a word for it, on what I want. I really do not concern myself with what she wants or is trying to do. I always have in the back of your mind that she is playing some emotional/manipulative game... but that is her game, not mine. I really don't like things just hanging out there... I just don't have the time for it. I deal with things as they come to my attention, make a decision about my actions, then just move on.

If a chick cancels and counters with a time/place/date that doesn't work for you. Just tell her, then counter-counter with an alternative, then see what she does... will she think you are playing games with her? Sure, very likely... because that is what she would do. If what she is proposing works for you then go ahead and except. Sure she might be playing games... so what. It's what chicks do.

The only two rules... if you want to call it a rules... that I have with chicks is (1) I always assume she got my last message, if I didn't speak or communicate with her directly. If I counter-counter with an alternative and she doesn't get back with me... I just assume she is not interested and move on... I never text back again and ask the same question. I have to know if she is in our out... if she wants to play games she can go find another dude to play with. (2) I stay focused on what I want, if I'm not getting what I want from a chick, I will find another one.

Solid advice. Doesn’t concern himself with any petty games. It’s all a waste of his energy and thoughts. The chick will always assume the guy is playing one even if he isn’t; that’s very true. They play games to make them self seem like more of a catch.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

So we're no contact till at least mid next week and perhaps one more week?

 

[darksprezzatura]

So we're no contact till at least mid next week and perhaps one more week?

No contact since 2 days, she's blowing up my messages, Instagram. I can feel her hamster spinning. I also used that attention to set up two booty calls till the next week.

Things are going just fine. Maybe I'll drop a couple of crumbs of attention to her in a couple of days, then ghost her again for a week

 

[mrgoodstuff]

No contact 2 days, she's blowing up my messages Instagram. I can feel her hamster spinning. Set up two booty calls till the next week.

Things are going just fine. Maybe I'll drop a couple of crumbs of attention in a couple of days, then ghost her again for a week

Your doing excellent. You will suck her into your vacuum that your leaving behind.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Your doing excellent. You will suck her into your vacuum that your leaving behind.

The strategy is "Reward good behaviour, Take away attention during bad behaviour"

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The strategy is "Reward good behaviour, Take away attention during bad behaviour"

Patience and discipline required on your behalf.