Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Welcome to my life.Originally posted by Kawk_Blocker
If your a good looking guy:
1. Other guys will hate you, sometimes for no reason other than that - it will leave you shaking your head. I'm still astonished at the number of people that will take an instant disliking to me, even though I've never even met them - and alot of them are loser guys.
Jealous b*astards. But guys (especially AFCs) will be as underhanded as some women are, , especially if they see you as direct competition for the ladies - this will never change and will haunt you for the rest of your life.
2. Confident girls will acknowledge your looks, shy ones will look away.
3. You are somewhat marginalised because most women who are imtimidated by you will throw you off your game. You are likely stuck with the better looking ones, who are, of course, high maintenance.
4. The better looking you are, the more women will play their silly little head games. This is a fact of life, so you'd better get used to it.
5. If you are good looking and AFC, you ARE F*CKING DOOMED. Not only will plenty of attention hors attach themselves to you like a magnet, but people everywhere (and let's face it, most people on the planet have insecurities) will bust on you relentlessly for one reason and one reason only: ENVY.
6. Women may not always be interested in you for you. Guys might just hang around you to get at the chicks, and people in general will try to use you as social proof.
When you are percieved to be on top, whatever the reason may be, everyone will be gunning for you. For young guys growing up AFC, they are not taught how to defend against this and generally tend to go through a significant portion of thier lives clueless, but eventually come round to understanding this.
Being busted on most of your life will erode anyone's self esteem and confidence, I don't care who you are. Humans by nature will try to destroy you. Just look at society's penchant for tabloids and gossip.
....and yes, there will be the inevitable accusations of you being gay. I still get those myself to this day, and I'm almost 34. That's despite the fact that I haven't been without one woman or another since I was 18.
There are many downsides to being very attractive. You gotta have a thick skin. I used to hate attention, still do to some point, there's something disconcerting about having all eyes on you.
But as I said, being AFC and good looking is a bad combination, because then everyone is gunning for you, and yes, women will use you to rub their own egos, even married ones.
These are some of the reasons I have no f*cking game of my own.
1200? Don't flatter yourself too much buddy.Originally posted by AmazingTricks
To complicate things even more, I have an above average IQ. I scored 1200 on the SAT and I may have the highest effort to results ratio in the history of man.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ya I really went off there saying I had an above average IQ. Oops. Lets, see...700 on verbal is in the 95th percentile. I got 680 so I guess that is above average. Again: I didn't put any effort in, I was just naturally smart. I don't know how you girls got so smart, but I can guessOriginally posted by Interpol
1200? Don't flatter yourself too much buddy.
Wow, this thread again?Originally posted by theSpeculator
Then why did you posted it in a "post your picture" thread in the first place? If it was a mistake, then why didn't you go back to re-edit it?
Intuitively, I think that pictue really is you.
About Tha Realnzz
With Tha Realnezz, I could tell he was full of $h1t from the context and style of his posts. All the things he has said were incongruent with my experiences.
Maybe it is the people he hangs around, but in my situation I have yet to meet a girl that would blackstab behind my back just b/c of my looks. No, most girls that have crushes will wait for you to notice them.
With guys they are friendly and in a way look up to me. I consider myself to be very charismatic and intelligence. If they treat you bad, it is a reflection of your submissive personality and/or wussy behaviors. When I was like that, that's how they treated me. Now that I am confident, assertive, and kind I get respect. Yet my looks hasn't change much.
Therefore this is evidence that most people do not treating you bad b/c they are jealous or hate you b/c of your looks. HOWEVER, I do believe there are people that would, but those kind are probably insecure, low self-esteem a$$holes. If you know people like that then forget them, they are nothing but loser, you can find better people to hangout with.
The people I surround myself with are all nice friendly people. I have no time to put up with stupid guys that are a$$holes.
This post is evidence that contradicts the "People are just jealous of my looks" thinking. Stop it. People treat you bad because of what's inside you and not b/c of your looks. Accept it or not, but it will still be the truth.
I know this is off-topic, but I've read that average is anywhere from 950-1050 on the SAT. So 1200 *is* technically above average. It's not genius level, but if you get a 1200 on the SAT you can definitely claim that you're smart.Originally posted by Interpol
1200? Don't flatter yourself too much buddy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.