"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Are you Good-Looking???
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
theSpeculator
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Here some pics I found:
Tha Realnezz:
http://photobucket.com/albums/v480/RLNZ/IMAG0090.jpg
and
Fatality:
http://www.coldquads.com/gallery/stickman.html
The picture were found in here:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30488&perpage=20&highlight=pics&pagenumber=5
I think they are just average. Despite how much they have inflated themselves, I don't think I will mistake them for a movie star or model if I saw them in real life.
The point of this post was not meant to insult, but to put some reality into these claims. Obviously, if these two can easily talk themselves up higher than there really are, then many others can do the same.
Therefore, I urge everyone to always questions the legitimacy of a claim including mine.
ON SELF-ESTEEM
To most of everyone who posted in this thread: Many of you need to accept who you are whether you are good-looking, cute, handsoome, or ugly. Everyone has flaws, accept it. By basing your confidence on your look, you are setting your ego up to be crush in the future when you realized you really are not what you thought you are.
If you want to build real heathy self-esteem,self-acceptance is one of the first step. Self-acceptance is one of the basic foundations of healthy self-esteem. Until you accept yourself, your confidence can never grow.
PROJECT BIBLE J
It is obvious that the way you looks is a major issue by many people in this forum, as evident by the number of views and posts. It is disappointing that this issue is not address in the DJ Bible.
I believe that the DJ Bible is a good source of information. However it is more useful as an introduction to seduction. It introduces you to the the world of how to attraction woman. But it abandons you in the middle of your transition into a DJ.
The forum was designed to replaced the bible when you start your transition. However it has proven to be ineffective because many of the people that posts here are still AFC themselves with many of the same issues.
Another problem with the current DJ Bible is that it relies too heavily on theories that may be true or not. In the real worlds theories are not helpful. What is helpful is examples. It has been shown by studies that people learn better with examples, therefore if examples were included into the bible, newbie will have an easier time understanding the materials.
Because of these problems, I am considering starting a project on reforming the bible. It will be a freelance thing and what I put in there will be threads that I think will be the most helpful. I have already started working on it, but it was originally intented for my personal use only. Now I am considering making it availiable to everyone here. If anyone is interested in helping create a new bible PM me or e-mail me.
Tha Realnezz:
http://photobucket.com/albums/v480/RLNZ/IMAG0090.jpg
and
Fatality:
http://www.coldquads.com/gallery/stickman.html
The picture were found in here:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30488&perpage=20&highlight=pics&pagenumber=5
I think they are just average. Despite how much they have inflated themselves, I don't think I will mistake them for a movie star or model if I saw them in real life.
The point of this post was not meant to insult, but to put some reality into these claims. Obviously, if these two can easily talk themselves up higher than there really are, then many others can do the same.
Therefore, I urge everyone to always questions the legitimacy of a claim including mine.
ON SELF-ESTEEM
To most of everyone who posted in this thread: Many of you need to accept who you are whether you are good-looking, cute, handsoome, or ugly. Everyone has flaws, accept it. By basing your confidence on your look, you are setting your ego up to be crush in the future when you realized you really are not what you thought you are.
If you want to build real heathy self-esteem,self-acceptance is one of the first step. Self-acceptance is one of the basic foundations of healthy self-esteem. Until you accept yourself, your confidence can never grow.
PROJECT BIBLE J
It is obvious that the way you looks is a major issue by many people in this forum, as evident by the number of views and posts. It is disappointing that this issue is not address in the DJ Bible.
I believe that the DJ Bible is a good source of information. However it is more useful as an introduction to seduction. It introduces you to the the world of how to attraction woman. But it abandons you in the middle of your transition into a DJ.
The forum was designed to replaced the bible when you start your transition. However it has proven to be ineffective because many of the people that posts here are still AFC themselves with many of the same issues.
Another problem with the current DJ Bible is that it relies too heavily on theories that may be true or not. In the real worlds theories are not helpful. What is helpful is examples. It has been shown by studies that people learn better with examples, therefore if examples were included into the bible, newbie will have an easier time understanding the materials.
Because of these problems, I am considering starting a project on reforming the bible. It will be a freelance thing and what I put in there will be threads that I think will be the most helpful. I have already started working on it, but it was originally intented for my personal use only. Now I am considering making it availiable to everyone here. If anyone is interested in helping create a new bible PM me or e-mail me.
LMFAO that pic isn't really me. I tried to delete it once but it was too late.
I wish I was that huge.
If anybody here post on the bodybuilding board like Mayhem and getbig you know who that is.
I really didn't think I was talking like i was Brad Pitt or anything.
I wish I was that huge.
If anybody here post on the bodybuilding board like Mayhem and getbig you know who that is.
I really didn't think I was talking like i was Brad Pitt or anything.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When I was in high school girls seemed to stare at me, and that's how they drew my attention. After high school and going to college, it suddenly stopped. Part of it was probably from me adding weight, but now that I slimmed down, I do seem to attract some women again, just not like in high school. I rarely have women stare at me like in high school but they show it in other ways, like how they treat me, what they say to me, etc. They have become more sophisticated in their flirting.
I seem to get called handsome by older ladies, and drunk women. You know, those that are either liquored up or don't have anything to lose.
I'm 6'3" and I know I at least attract those who find tall men appealing.
Yes, I've been called handsome, cute, etc but don't see any point in detailing each one. I'm sure most have been in this situation. I think if you take care of your body and are relatively young, you should be okay for the most part.
If you go to a place where there are young people, pick out a hot girl and watch how people respond to her, guys will drool over her and stare at her. Find some guy who may be appealing (if you're like me you have no idea if a guy is handsome or not unless he's a popular actor, but you can try), and see how girls respond to him. He may get 1/10th of the attention.
I seem to get called handsome by older ladies, and drunk women. You know, those that are either liquored up or don't have anything to lose.
I'm 6'3" and I know I at least attract those who find tall men appealing.
Yes, I've been called handsome, cute, etc but don't see any point in detailing each one. I'm sure most have been in this situation. I think if you take care of your body and are relatively young, you should be okay for the most part.
If you go to a place where there are young people, pick out a hot girl and watch how people respond to her, guys will drool over her and stare at her. Find some guy who may be appealing (if you're like me you have no idea if a guy is handsome or not unless he's a popular actor, but you can try), and see how girls respond to him. He may get 1/10th of the attention.
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=BRSZRUA&key=HFY there's mine, im 6' 154 lbs now use to be 140 or so in that pic. My skin is a little more dark now also. Ive been called cute by younger girls and handsome by some married women. I've only been called hot once or twice. On in person and the other thru the grapevine.
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Then why did you posted it in a "post your picture" thread in the first place? If it was a mistake, then why didn't you go back to re-edit it?Originally posted by Fatality
LMFAO that pic isn't really me. I tried to delete it once but it was too late.
I wish I was that huge.
If anybody here post on the bodybuilding board like Mayhem and getbig you know who that is.
I really didn't think I was talking like i was Brad Pitt or anything.
Intuitively, I think that pictue really is you.
About Tha Realnzz
With Tha Realnezz, I could tell he was full of $h1t from the context and style of his posts. All the things he has said were incongruent with my experiences.
Maybe it is the people he hangs around, but in my situation I have yet to meet a girl that would blackstab behind my back just b/c of my looks. No, most girls that have crushes will wait for you to notice them.
With guys they are friendly and in a way look up to me. I consider myself to be very charismatic and intelligence. If they treat you bad, it is a reflection of your submissive personality and/or wussy behaviors. When I was like that, that's how they treated me. Now that I am confident, assertive, and kind I get respect. Yet my looks hasn't change much.
Therefore this is evidence that most people do not treating you bad b/c they are jealous or hate you b/c of your looks. HOWEVER, I do believe there are people that would, but those kind are probably insecure, low self-esteem a$$holes. If you know people like that then forget them, they are nothing but loser, you can find better people to hangout with.
The people I surround myself with are all nice friendly people. I have no time to put up with stupid guys that are a$$holes.
This post is evidence that contradicts the "People are just jealous of my looks" thinking. Stop it. People treat you bad because of what's inside you and not b/c of your looks. Accept it or not, but it will still be the truth.
stevey_2000
Senior Don Juan
i don't really care whether i'm good looking or not (i have been told loads of times i'm 'cute' and 'baby faced looking' but i never really take it on board, i'm just confident in myself, dress well, approach loads of girls and regularly work out so that keeps me feeling good about myself no matter what!,
if you have true confidence then you don't care how good looking you are!,
not that i'm ugly cos i'm one hell of a good looking lad
if you have true confidence then you don't care how good looking you are!,
not that i'm ugly cos i'm one hell of a good looking lad
theSpeculator
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Very true. When you have true confidence (the kind that comes from deep inside), then you outer appearance (everything from personality to behavior to body language) will reflect it. People will notice your confident and react to it accordingly.
The vice versa is true for low self-esteem (low confidence).
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
jakethasnake
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Bro, I've already deferred to your awesome greatness and championship-calibre face. And then you say that you're uglier than my 'Jackie Chan Mini-Me' face? You're just confusing me now...
Are you a hottie or an ugly turd?
CvB
Don Juan
This is true, I've heard I'm really handsome lots of times, from friends, family and strangers, but I just can't seem to build any confidence from it. I keep thinking in AFC ways, like I'm not worth a woman or that i should be happy with attention they give me instead of turning it around. Girls never made a move on me and when they do I'm certain I'll interpret it as a joke or something.
Here's a pretty recent pic: http://members.lycos.nl/vagrantx/chrisgoed.jpg
My most reason encounter of a girl who thought I was handsome, these were her first words when she approached me:
"hey, can I stand near you?"
Let's throw in another one of not so long ago, I approach this girl and asked how she was doing on which she replied:
"You know you look good"
And my most shocking one of all was at a birthday party of my dad. The wife of my uncle (hot, don't tell) told my mother the following after I entered the room:
"If I weren't a married woman, I knew what to do with him"
Having good looks is great. You'll get a lot of compliments. But in the end they mean ****. It's just someones opinion of your looks, not of you. This is exactly were the "problem" lies. Compliments do boost your ego, not your confidence. Your confidence is boosted with succes. Someone telling that your good looking isn't an achievement for you, it's an achievement of your parents and the nice genes that they provided. In the end the only thing that matters is scoring the babe. And really we all look through two eyes, when hitting on girls my own looks are really the last thing on my mind.
One note: When you are good looking take it easy on the C+F, your looks do the most work in the attraction department and overdoing it makes you seem arrogant instead of confident.
"hey, can I stand near you?"
Let's throw in another one of not so long ago, I approach this girl and asked how she was doing on which she replied:
"You know you look good"
And my most shocking one of all was at a birthday party of my dad. The wife of my uncle (hot, don't tell) told my mother the following after I entered the room:
"If I weren't a married woman, I knew what to do with him"
Having good looks is great. You'll get a lot of compliments. But in the end they mean ****. It's just someones opinion of your looks, not of you. This is exactly were the "problem" lies. Compliments do boost your ego, not your confidence. Your confidence is boosted with succes. Someone telling that your good looking isn't an achievement for you, it's an achievement of your parents and the nice genes that they provided. In the end the only thing that matters is scoring the babe. And really we all look through two eyes, when hitting on girls my own looks are really the last thing on my mind.
One note: When you are good looking take it easy on the C+F, your looks do the most work in the attraction department and overdoing it makes you seem arrogant instead of confident.
Heres a pic of me,
Its not so good and it was taken a year ago though.
-I'll try to get a newer one to post but until then....
- I also fixed my hair
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=BMKYGMN&key=WDE
Its not so good and it was taken a year ago though.
-I'll try to get a newer one to post but until then....
- I also fixed my hair
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=BMKYGMN&key=WDE
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
http://c.myspace.com/00019/98/99/19149989_l.jpg
some girls consider me beautiful, others say i'm an ugly ass (which i don't believe). by my standards, i'm a 8, but i think most girls perceive me as a 7, maybe even less. who cares, until i've got even a little game?
some girls consider me beautiful, others say i'm an ugly ass (which i don't believe). by my standards, i'm a 8, but i think most girls perceive me as a 7, maybe even less. who cares, until i've got even a little game?
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Originally posted by Jay-X
http://c.myspace.com/00019/98/99/19149989_l.jpg
some girls consider me beautiful, others say i'm an ugly ass (which i don't believe). by my standards, i'm a 8, but i think most girls perceive me as a 7, maybe even less. who cares, until i've got even a little game?
Work out more. If you had about 15 pounds more muscle on you, I think a lot of Italian girls will think you're very hot. I know for a fact that the ragazze Italiane love the azzuri eyes, which you have. Lucky you. Just get more buff, you'll have Italian girls kicking your door down. That's some objective advice from a straight Asian dude. Good luck!
TheInfamousCBear
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This is funny cause most dudes in here and on real life think that Brad Pitt is the best looking guy in the world, and if you dont look like him youre not good looking...Plus men only look at features, women look at features and presentation, so obviously the criteria is different...Sh1t, I dont know how a guy would be able to tell another man if hes good looking or not, unless youre gay, cause women dont look at men the way men do...And like the other guy said, goodlooking guys dont get as much attention from women as good looking girls do from guys...The only issue is if people are lying over the internet, but if these dudes are getting compliments, it does mean something...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.