Are you feeling the pressure to "settle down"?

[speakeasy]

For you older DJs, like 30+ especially, I'm sure you see more and more of the people in your social network getting into serious relationships and talking about marriage. More people sort of giving up on the exciting and active life of the single person and sort of settling down.

I admit peer pressure can be strong and you can start to feel like you're being left behind sometimes. I even wonder occasionally what I'm doing at 33 trying to learn game and still going out to bars and clubs. How do you guys deal with some of these issues?

 

[Bible_Belt]

I visit my friends and family who have several small screaming children.

 

[Warrior74]

No...my friends are just now hitting their first divorces and are looking to me for guidance now. I'm in the south, so if you're not married by 30, people look at you strange.

 

[The Champ]

Only if you find the right girl with all the knowledge obtained at this site.

Only when your gut tells you it's right... if your gut doesn't agree... DIVORCE is imminent.

 

[Colossus]

I think part of the 'settling down' desire is just a natural part of getting older, and much of it is peer-pressure/culture. A lot of folks (especially women) like to covertly shame the unmarried.

I don't feel any pressure. I wont say I never entertain thoughts of 'settling down'; and by that I mean settling into a certain part of the country and getting property, and a long-term gf. That's normal and natural, and I don't think we should be shaming DJs for having this desire. What I think is egregious is subscribing to the idea that if you don't "settle" into one woman by X age, you are behind the curve or there is something wrong. That's utter b.s. "Settling down", as it is understood colloquially, implies you are settling for a particular woman because that's what is expected of you.

 

[Commandante]

A have anything else to say:

The Case Against Marriage

 

[sodbuster]

Since I'm divorced, I don't get much of it. But some, all women have a divorced friend that they think I need to meet[great like I want to deal with someone elses kids and fund their college too].

 

[Warrior74]

A have anything else to say:

The Case Against Marriage

Wow. That is a read. Good post.

 

[Zunder]

Roissy, love him or hate him, actually hit the nail just about square on the head with this post http://roissy.wordpress.com/2009/10/29/the-lie-of-locking-her-in/