Are you depressed or obsessed over a girl? (oneitis)

[Masked_angel]

If you are depressed and obsessed over "this unic" girl.. I want you to try to picture this.. You do your “fix thing”, your poem writing, your maneuver and win the girl back..now.. have you pictured yourself having that girl? You are in deep love, everything is perfect.. UNTILL!

(pick one of the below)

- She starts flirting with other guys.
(You know that you’ll get angry and jealous)
- She has a contagious disease
(You know that you will get a huge wave of anxiety, **** you may have got aids..)
- She dumps you over another guy after you guys got into more intimacy
(You know it hurts)
- She cheats on you
(You know it hurts)
- She is bad in bed
(You’ll get bored)
- She doesn’t let you be with your friends
(You’ll feel isolated)
- She gets depressed and takes suicide.
(You will blame it on yourself)
- She gets pregnant
(She keeps the baby = Your life is ruined)

Now if you knew that "the girl" you are so obsessed would stay with you only if 3 of the points out of the list would happened. Would you still want to be with her? Place yourself in that scenario, wouldn’t you wish that she would dump you instead?

I’m giving you a warning, do not begin a relationship with someone that is not interested in you or play games with you or cheats on her boyfriend for you. Do not think about that oneitis (you know who you are), because more likely YOU will become a victim.

Be happy, be free. Don’t you see that you have no strings attached? Are you not happy that you are healthy? No AIDS? NO HERPES? No girl who cheats on you? No pregnancy?

Stop being obsessed about "this girl", stop trying to fix an ex girlfriend, stop chasing girls that have guys. Instead be happy about being single and do you see a red flag? NEXT the girl! Or else take the consequences…

A huge recommendation is to see the movie "the butterfly effect".

Best Regards
Masked_angel

 

[S.U.R.F.]

ooh i like this. But I have a more nihilist/existentialist view of it.

In my opinion, no matter how hot/attractive/amazing/intelligent/totally the greatest girl in the world is. Having her will not make YOU a better person.

I think that many ppl go for oneitis becuz they feel that having this special girl would rise their own value of how they feel about themselves.

My view is that even if you **** a hot girl, your still that insecure guy that fked a hot girl. So in that way of speaking, no girl should be truly special, no girl should make you feel like you cant live without her.

Its all about you, remember that. Even if you think its about her, its actually about you.