"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"Are you dating/talking to anyone?"

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What's the best response to this? I can see how each response can have it's pros and cons.



To the "do you have a girlfriend?" question, I still say "Yeah, 3.". Been saying that since high school. Works good
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"Are you dating/talking to anyone?" is a YES answer, always. It's another one of those traps we would step into thinking "If I say NO, she'll see that I'm available." Yes, she will, but what happens next? Surely your own experience provides ample testimony.
 

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Just make a joke about it. Tell them, "I'm holding auditions."
 
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