Are you concerned with the way you leave your women?

[S. Pryor]

I was thinking about this not too long ago with how there are just so many bitter people out there. Not necessarily with the way their lives turned out but in their relationships (if that makes sense). What I mean by that is there are people out there that have been abused or better yet allowed themselves to be in abusive relationships and they carry that on with their next partner. And since this board is primarily here to help men I'm referring to the way we leave women. If you're in a relationship with a woman and it wasn't a great relationship do you ever think about what it does to her? Not every guy is nice or a loveable "jerk" but is a legit asshole and these women are constantly carrying baggage in every relationship they're in. Maybe you charmed the pants off her (literally and figuratively) and after you were done you never called her back or had any intentions of seeing her again. And on her end she was thinking she might have found a guy she MAYBE saw herself having something with. I'm not necessarily talking about a one night stand to be clear. But does any of this stuff ever cross your mind? I don't want a woman being all fucked up towards me cause the last guy was a psycho or she allowed herself to be driven insane by him. The same can be said if the roles were reversed as well.

 

[Onlyliveonce]

Legitimate question. The thing is, if she is not strong enough to understand that the decent guy she is with now is NOT the previous jerk then good riddance to her. We are only responsible for ourselves. As long as I don't make her worse off why worry?
Now if I did something bad or treated her poorly that is my fault. I treat people the way I want to be treated, and accept nothing less. Not all women are victims however, even though they portray themselves as such. I've met plenty BPD (and I don't give a shyt how they became that way) that played me. If they were on fire, I wouldn't piss on them to put out the flames.

 

[S. Pryor]

So you guys are just going to ignore this food for thought? Don't you want your girl to be somewhat sane in your relationship with her? Is this you playas? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nNV-WNMP51g

 

[zekko]

That might be a legit concern for PUA forums, but most people here are here because they have failed with women largely because they are genuinely nice and naive people(AFC) or got burned by ex's(BPD).

I think S. Pryor has a legitimate point. Yeah, a lot of guys here are genuinely "nice" or whatever. But I get the impression most posters on here are after the pump and dump. And I could see that having a negative effect on women and their attitudes towards males. If there are too many guys pumping and dumping, it's like peeing in the pool. It's soiling it for everybody.