"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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are you a true Don Juan?

check_mate_kid_uk

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You are a true Don Juan? To me that’s rather paradoxical seeing as something very unexpected and enlightening happens when you grasp towards it.

Truth is once you begin to grasp the concept you realise there is no Don Juan there is only you! This is the point where you take the information and do what you want not what a set of rules tells you to? And who do you think made those rules, you did! Every single one of us did! Over the years who formed all these rules, who has sculpted them in to what they are? We did, and that is why there are so many conflicting ideas, Don Juan is really just me and you and every one else’s ideologies bundled up together, so there is no Don Juan to, to say you are a Don Juan is to say you are the beliefs of every single person, but you can only live by one persons beliefs and that person should be you. When we learn from Don Juan we learn from each other. Trying to be a Don Juan is like going in to school to try and become the class. You come here as yourself and you go away wiser but still yourself, and that’s the important part yourself, if you spend your time trying to be a Don Juan you will miss the opportunity to learn something and come away empty handed, but if instead of thinking how can I become a Don Juan, you think to yourself, how can I ‘better myself’ rather then wasting your time fooling yourself in to believing you are some kind of living legend, you will walk away wiser.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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i like you view check m8,

but why do you have to go so deep all the time, i look at your posts an think, " oh god not another one of these philosophy speeches again"

your wise, smart, educated and most of all..... boring.... ha ha ha, just kidding...

good point though, i suppose its what is repeated in the bible..
just mix the don juan attitude with yours until you find who YOU ARE... the part of you that is attractive to women.
 

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The amazing part is the importance of Don Juan as a symbol. With out it, this may aswell be another dating and relationship forum, that is not to usefull, Don juan is the essence of the site, it gives you an image to aim for, with out it sosuave would not be good, it is what makes ossuave diffrent and with time people realise the thing i mentioned in the original post.
 
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