"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Are you a day 1 or day 2 guy? (or 3+)

Sofomore

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Just curious what your style for picking up chicks is. I've found that I consistently do better if I end the first date on a good note and play it cool until the next date. Whenever I try to pull the same night I usually end up with some sort of resistance that I can't bypass. Even with proper escalation the girls don't want to come back to my place. I usually have to set the stage on the second date. It's been like this for the last 3 years.

I want to be able to pull the first night and I understand that most quality girls don't put out right away, not really looking for a "keeper" right now...just ONS.

What I'm trying to get at is...how do I turn myself from a "day 2" guy to a "day 1 guy"? Possibly I need to build more comfort?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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LeonSK

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I always try finish the deal on Day 1, but if I sense strong resistance, I play it cool. Another problem is you may not have turned the girls on, not enough kissing or other plays before you try to engage in sexual contact. Try being a little patient and keeping it flow instead of thinking "I need to fxxx her tonight". Once you turn her on, zero resistance.
 

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I usually can get sex night one except that I find the girls are usually on their periods. I'm sure girls use that as an excuse all the time, but I get far enough to know that they're not lying.

Seems kind of weird though.
 

RagingBalls

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It's not consistent for me. Some girls with high IL are in day 1-2, while there are some girls that after day 1 i lost interest in pursuing them. The most memorable i had was banging 2 different girls(plates)and i got them both on day 1 a few days apart and later on i discovered that they're cousins through their myspace :D . Got into a mess with that one. lol
 

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The only day ones I have pulled include a very fun evening. If we go out and totally vibe and have a great time it's gonna happen..
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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benogan

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read some stuff on end game. are you escalating physically during Day1?
 
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