"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are women repulsed by disfigured veterans?

MatureDJ

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:
... one warrior emerged as perhaps the finest killer in military history, on a mission to serve his besieged nation by picking off foreign attackers — many, many of them — one by one with a sniper rifle.
A shot rang out, and suddenly Häyhä was on the ground, bleeding profusely from his face, the grisly victim of an exploding bullet that had been banned by most nations. According to one account of the battle, while unconscious, with his left upper jaw blown away completely and his left lower jaw cut in two, Häyhä was placed in a pile of bodies killed in action.
The Russian troops had snuffed Häyhä out of the Winter War, which had begun on November 30, 1939, but not before he had compiled, by some accounts, a kill count in excess of 500 by sniper rifle, more than anyone in recorded history.
He ran a farm for much of the rest of his life, living alone, quietly, never marrying or having children. He lived to be 96, dying of natural causes in a veteran’s facility.
He's also a ShortCel, which obviously is an aggravating condition.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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All day every day.
 

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A few days ago I was talking to a friend and she told me about a guy that had written to her on a dating site. They were just about to meet up and then he warned her that he had a limp and asked if that would be a problem for her. She replied that she wasn't sure and he got angry and cancelled the date. Later he sent an angry message calling her shallow.

I felt kind of sorry for the guy, really. It's not nice to be turned down like that, especially for something that you're sensitive about. But of course both men and women are going to be less attracted to people with physical defects.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Alright... I have personal experience with this. I have some nasty scars from land mine, none of it is visible unless I'm wearing shorts or I am shirtless.

Some chicks are completely turned off by this... some love the scars. It all depends on the woman.
 

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I believe the point is if the scar or the damage somehow prevents you from doing certain things or not...basically if it makes you weaker or not self reliant.

A visible cut scar on your forehead doesnt bother much since its just a visual thing but if you cant hold your fist thats a different story.
 
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