"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Are women repulsed by disfigured veterans?

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:
... one warrior emerged as perhaps the finest killer in military history, on a mission to serve his besieged nation by picking off foreign attackers — many, many of them — one by one with a sniper rifle.
A shot rang out, and suddenly Häyhä was on the ground, bleeding profusely from his face, the grisly victim of an exploding bullet that had been banned by most nations. According to one account of the battle, while unconscious, with his left upper jaw blown away completely and his left lower jaw cut in two, Häyhä was placed in a pile of bodies killed in action.
The Russian troops had snuffed Häyhä out of the Winter War, which had begun on November 30, 1939, but not before he had compiled, by some accounts, a kill count in excess of 500 by sniper rifle, more than anyone in recorded history.
He ran a farm for much of the rest of his life, living alone, quietly, never marrying or having children. He lived to be 96, dying of natural causes in a veteran’s facility.
He's also a ShortCel, which obviously is an aggravating condition.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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All day every day.
 

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A few days ago I was talking to a friend and she told me about a guy that had written to her on a dating site. They were just about to meet up and then he warned her that he had a limp and asked if that would be a problem for her. She replied that she wasn't sure and he got angry and cancelled the date. Later he sent an angry message calling her shallow.

I felt kind of sorry for the guy, really. It's not nice to be turned down like that, especially for something that you're sensitive about. But of course both men and women are going to be less attracted to people with physical defects.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alright... I have personal experience with this. I have some nasty scars from land mine, none of it is visible unless I'm wearing shorts or I am shirtless.

Some chicks are completely turned off by this... some love the scars. It all depends on the woman.
 

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I believe the point is if the scar or the damage somehow prevents you from doing certain things or not...basically if it makes you weaker or not self reliant.

A visible cut scar on your forehead doesnt bother much since its just a visual thing but if you cant hold your fist thats a different story.
 
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