"Are we still friends?"

[PhatE1vis]

Need a quick opinion/advice on this situation:

My FB and I started developing feelings for each other; I was OK letting them grow but she pulled back. Fine, I've got other things on my plate, so it was disappointing but not devastating.

So I pulled back a little, cut off our daily chatting just to give myself some breathing room. I just received an e-mail from her after two days of no contact, simply "are we still friends?"

How AND when would you respond? I'm not really interested in just being a friend.

 

[blackbelt2k]

im interested in a good way to handle this too, without coming off afc, and still being able to have my fun with a chick

 

[Road Demon]

I would agree and say we are friends. Agreeing with her gets her on your side. Tell her it is not a big deal, then be a challenge (which it sounds like you are already doing).

Don't really show that you are bothered her decision, and show some indifference, but don't be mean or angry towards her. Maintain a positive outlook that you are still in control of your emotions.

Continue to back off, be unavailable, don't intiate contact (but you can return calls), keep the calls short less than 8 minutes and be the first person to get off the phone. Don't pick up the the phone from her on Fri and Sat nights. Treat her like you are still like FWBs when you see her and kino her. Let he feel that you are living yourlife without her.

I predict she will re-evaluate you and come around.

 

[speakeasy]

Does FB mean friends with benefits? Just making sure. Is there a DJ acronym dictionary on this site?

 

[PhatE1vis]

Yeah, these acronyms are nuts.

By FB, I meant f*ck buddy. Similar to friends w. benefits, since she is a friend.

 

[ryannath]

I would agree with her and say "of course we are.....I like having you as a friend." She'll be thinking, "so am I being told I just want to be friends?" That's a good thing.

 

[penkitten]

I would agree with her and say "of course we are.....I like having you as a friend." She'll be thinking, "so am I being told I just want to be friends?" That's a good thing.

owned!