everywomanshero
Master Don Juan
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Self-Serving Bias means that when things go well we attribute the good results to ourselves. When things go bad, we attribute them to external sources. It's not always bad, sometimes it helps prevent us from getting discouraged. I know I've used it quite successfully at times.
But there's a very negative extension of this:
Self_Handicapping: A precreated excuse for why it wouldn't be your fault if things didn't go well. This serves to save one's self-esteem, but often becomes a self-fuffiling prophecy.
EX. In my spanish class everyone already knows spanish. Therefore, the reason I might not do good is because of THAT. Effect: I am not going to bother studying because everyone else int eh class has it easier than me. Person ends up failing the class.
OR in our case: She's a *****, I can just tell it, if I get blown out it's because she's a *****. Goes in thinking she's a *****. Lo and behold, his mannerisms and such are off, and she acts like a *****. He knew it all along, and the only reason he got shot down is because she's a b1tch. If by some miracle it worked, a double bonus.. he succeeded even THOUGH she was a *****. This also applied to not wanting to look bad infront of wings, may cause one to approach the "sets" they feel will be seen as "difficult" and pass up the women they actually want to talk to (but hey diversity can be a good thing and lead to new revelations, can be good and bad both).
Something to be aware of.
But there's a very negative extension of this:
Self_Handicapping: A precreated excuse for why it wouldn't be your fault if things didn't go well. This serves to save one's self-esteem, but often becomes a self-fuffiling prophecy.
EX. In my spanish class everyone already knows spanish. Therefore, the reason I might not do good is because of THAT. Effect: I am not going to bother studying because everyone else int eh class has it easier than me. Person ends up failing the class.
OR in our case: She's a *****, I can just tell it, if I get blown out it's because she's a *****. Goes in thinking she's a *****. Lo and behold, his mannerisms and such are off, and she acts like a *****. He knew it all along, and the only reason he got shot down is because she's a b1tch. If by some miracle it worked, a double bonus.. he succeeded even THOUGH she was a *****. This also applied to not wanting to look bad infront of wings, may cause one to approach the "sets" they feel will be seen as "difficult" and pass up the women they actually want to talk to (but hey diversity can be a good thing and lead to new revelations, can be good and bad both).
Something to be aware of.
(not to say it isn't useful, but in general those things tend to be a of questionable credibility). Most Universities have a searchable database on can access to find valid (credible) documents. I think the APA has something similar, although I am not as famaliar with it.