Are we flirting - do girls flirt like this? How to ask her out?

[AverageHero]

Hi,

I work with a girl who I love. We have this thing we do where we tease each other, but pretend to do it in a serious way. While out for a few drinks at a party, we told each other that sometimes we think the other is being serious.

We both are only playing with each other. She said sometimes she thinks I hate her! I think she is AMAZING and told her I think she is cool. Anyway we joked about it, and later on she said that I had glitter on our face from kissing each other (we didn't kiss, but I got glitter on my face haha) to a friend.

Does it sound as if we are flirting? How do I ask her out, but not look like a geek/or needy?

 

[Jack Wealthy]

Pash her.

 

[AverageHero]

Basically asked her out but her sister is in her apartment for a few days after coming home from the other side of the world.

My crush says she can't leave her sister alone. I was of the impression that if a girl liked you she would jump at the chance to go out with you.

It's a genuine excuse, but dang man it hurts. Should I give her another chance?

 

[AverageHero]

Thanks man, appreciate the response. I suppose she did validate herself to me by giving a genuine excuse upfront (I know it's genuine because she was excited to have her sister back for a few weeks)

How does this leave me though? She knows I asked her out, and must like her, so do I cool the jets for a while? Will she respect me more/less for asking her out?

 

[Fela Kuti]

why can't she leave the sister alone? her sister isn't 5 year old is she? and a date would only take a few hours, right? I don't get this.

 

[lolwut]

stop trying to figure what every little thing she says or does actually means. half of the time women doesn't even know what they want. and what they say or even do can be different from what they want. They are controlled by emotions which can change from 1 moment to the next.

If you like her and want to give it a second shot, i don't think what anyone says in this forum is gonna stop you from asking her out again anyway.

her excuse may be legit, or it may not, who gives a ****?

Ask her again when her sister leaves, what do you have to lose?
If she says no or makes another excuse then forget her and move on.

If she meant to reject you in the 1st place then you lose nothing by getting rejected again. But if she had a legit excuse than you may be missing out by overthinking.

 

[AverageHero]

Hi everone OP here,

Thanks for all replies. Turns out her sister went to a friends house but my 'crush' didn't contact me to tell me. The only solace I'm taking from it is that she is very very shy, and conservative - but that's all.

I suppose there could be a million reasons as to why I wasn't told, and I shouldn't take it personally but how and ever.

I suppose I should just leave her be, as the ball is in her court if she wants to do anything ya know.

Another piece of solace I suppose is that I had the b*ll**ks to ask her out face-to-face and while sober (however nervous it probably looked).

It's tough...