"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are we born Introvert or Stuck Up?

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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No one is born stuck up. People are stuck up due to socialization. Some people may be born with a more introverted temperment, but like i said before, socialization plays the key role.
 
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Yeah I think intorversion, and extraversion for that matter, and stuck upness (narcissism?) are two distinct and separate things. I do think you can be born with the genetics that will favor for introversion and/or being stuck up though.
 
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A person can be born with Avoidant Personality Disorder and can thus be born to become introverted and likewise another person can be born with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and thus be stuck up.

So yeah people can be born to be either one of those.

Normal people who do not carry the bad genetics that create those disorders are born neutral but through socialization, learning and their own genetic makeup they go on to become various types of different personality's.
 
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KontrollerX said:
A person can be born with Avoidant Personality Disorder and can thus be born to become introverted and likewise another person can be born with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and thus be stuck up.

So yeah people can be born to be either one of those.

Normal people who do not carry the bad genetics that create those disorders are born neutral but through socialization, learning and their own genetic makeup they go on to become various types of different personality's.
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This is one of best explaination I've seen and I totally agree. A person with genetics to become xyz will become that almost regardless of enviroment. And a genetically neutral person could go either way depending on enviroment. And a person who is strongly genetically positive to not become xzyz never will regardless of enviroment. And another thing is a person's genetics influence how their enviroment react to them. In other words a "negative" genetic quality draws in a reinforces negative from their enviroment.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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peoples personalities are influenced by: environment and biology (hereditary factors)

There are different schools of thought on it but the majority of scientists believe that biology does play a big role in our "default" personality but that it can be altered by environment.
 
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