Are we all just STUPID or what? CONTROL your sexuality!

[Babnik]

First of all, I'd like to say that people are different from animals because we have well developed brains and we think logically. This is the MAIN reason why we have advanced so much and are not dominating the planet. Its not the only reason, but without that well developed brain we would be like monkeys living in caves (and not in houses with pools, microwaves, and fridges).

People constantly say how a man should embrace being a man and go for every girl that makes him horny.

This is why 66% of Americans are fat...

You have your brain to think about your instincts and whether following them will benefit you in short and long runs.

When you are hungry, you can either go eat what tastes good (like sugars, fats, unhealthy things) or you can calm down and select healthy foods.

Now, someone who controlled his instincts will end up having healthier and better body. I, personally, hate to work out...I really do, but I THINK and go for it because I need to keep myself in shape.

What about STDs and AIDS? Every time you sleep with a woman you increase your chances of getting something BAD.

I just can't possibly see how pleasure with women is more important than not having AIDS...

My conclusion is that people mostly in America and Western Europe are spoiled to a point where they will go for how it FEELS...

Thats like DE-civilizing yourself...

I also think people want to sleep with women to validate that they CAN?

Like, if you could drive any car to work, would you be driving different ones all the time? I PERSONALLY would want to drive ONE so I know how it feels and know all about it!

Sex with the same person as an act of performance is FAR better than a night-stand with someone you barely know.

Like, how could you look at a guy who gets laid all the time as a SUCCESSFUL guy generally? Why is not pulling many women make you feel like a loser?

I had this problem when I was a virgin, but afterwards the urge to get many women just wasn't there. There is pure INSTINCT, but like I stated above it SHOULD be controlled for many reasons.

 

[danielzxc]

Dude, you're too much. From all the questioning posts you have posted lately, it is clear you don't really have much of a clue about anything. Why try and set everyone else straight when you're still searching for answers yourself? If you're too much of a little pvssy to lay a girl and pump the living chit out of her that is your problem. Don't try and make it everyone else's.

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I should add, controlling yourself is of course a good thing, but that can be interpreted in so many ways. For this site, it's just not something that needs to be said--afterall, no one is here because he is getting too much sex.

 

[Tyron]

You are touching lots of issues for sure. First I would like to say that being a dj is not about having sex with many chicks but rather finding the pearls you really like. Yes, most of the time you must see a lot of girls to find one(s) you really like.

How much our "discipline" can affect to our decisions is highly debatable. Seems that you agree that we are controlled by our animal instincts (so they are real) but can suppress them with discipline to achieve "greater good". Also, it is likely that man was not meant to have sex with only one female.

I kinda missed the point why our urges should be controlled? Let aside social norms and cultures that restrict it.

Also the food analogy is not that good even though makes your point clear. Eating healthy is beneficial. So is spreading your seed to as many quality candidates as possible.

And i do agree, some people want to validate themselves by having many sex partners but that only hardly makes them djs.

 

[THE_ADDMAN]

Yes, we are animals and we need to "follow our instincts"

but at the same time, we are civilized. The main issue we face is the "slut" label that society gives these women. Many women who would normally want to bang you will say no because of their fear of that label.

We might be animals, but we are civilized animals. Hence: we need to adapt.

I'd say to be civilized until you get her in the bedroom. once she is on your bed, THEN unleash the animal

 

[Klippymitch]

I totally agree with your post. I wonder what is causing this sudden event where people in today's society feel as if they need to bang anyting with two legs. If you look back in history of a civilized country. You can see it was always just one man and one woman and the relationship between the two were very loyal. This goes back along time and it really is a pretty cool and alot more complex than just sleeping around. It show you have self-control and intelligence when you stick with a relationship. You could argue we have been getting dumber and this is the result. Maybe we are now just a step above animals instead of two steps.

I would be interested in knowing if there are any study's done on the differences between modern human brain and the human brains from the past.

 

[Babnik]

There was a time when I would just DENY what I wanted to myself. I would use the same exact damn excuse as this one to compensate for unsuccessful dates with women.

Now, I realize that if I could lay ANY woman at any time without any effort. If they would just LINE UP at my door then I would still say NO until I would come across someone I genuinely like...

 

[PRMoon]

Isn't sex part of the dating process? Intimacy is a big part of any relationship in any phase. Lets say you can develop intellectual satisfaction with girls rapidly. You're a highly compatable person who can get along with pretty much anyone and you can speed through that part of the relationship(s) with ease. Do you not then natrually progress to the intimate part of that relationship? If this is the case you'll still be having sex frequently.

Excluding my ONS, the number of partners I have had wouldn't be as high, but the amount of "meanigful" sex I've had in the past is still not a low number. It's just the the progression of dating.

 

[vorbis]

Interesting topic. I think the one man one woman unit exists primarily for society's benefit not as a means to put women down. Single guys (like myself) and single girls tend to view hooking up and sarging new partners a primary focus in life. I know myself, I spend a good while thinking about different girls I'm seeing.

I still work out and do my job, but girls would be the thing I think most about. Even for guy friend of mine who get laid easily, they still think a LOT about it. One guy, if he goes say a month without pulling a girl, his confidence dips and it becomes a big concern.

There was a study done before on doctors to see was there patterns to which doctors advanced the fastest. One surprising pattern was that doctors that married earlier advanced significantly faster than single doctors. Single people generally aren't as productive to society as married people. (I dont mind, I like the single life!)

 

[Babnik]

Interesting topic. I think the one man one woman unit exists primarily for society's benefit not as a means to put women down. Single guys (like myself) and single girls tend to view hooking up and sarging new partners a primary focus in life. I know myself, I spend a good while thinking about different girls I'm seeing.

I still work out and do my job, but girls would be the thing I think most about. Even for guy friend of mine who get laid easily, they still think a LOT about it. One guy, if he goes say a month without pulling a girl, his confidence dips and it becomes a big concern.

There was a study done before on doctors to see was there patterns to which doctors advanced the fastest. One surprising pattern was that doctors that married earlier advanced significantly faster than single doctors. Single people generally aren't as productive to society as married people. (I dont mind, I like the single life!)

Well, I do think a lot about girls when I am not with friends or another girl, but making it a focus in LIFE? Besides being against all DJ stuff, its just silly...

How does not being successful with women make less successful in life?

I know them alpha male guys who are VIRGINS...who cares?

 

[PRMoon]

Well, I do think a lot about girls when I am not with friends or another girl, but making it a focus in LIFE? Besides being against all DJ stuff, its just silly...

How does not being successful with women make less successful in life?

I know them alpha male guys who are VIRGINS...who cares?

Why is it silly? Isn't companionship a major part of life? What's wrong with being happy with a woman or women as the case maybe?

 

[Unregistered]

I agree wholeheartedly. Good post.

 

[Oxide]

I agree as well, this is exactly what I have been thinking about, but stay on topic in your replies guys:

The point is we should be in control of our minds, and not let our bodies dictate our immidiate actions. I know all too well how one can talk oneself into sleeping in late instead of going to class because "the bed feels sooooo good!"

I know a dude who fukked over a hundred women. I used to think that was cool. He then told me he pretty much never rejects sex. Now I think he is dumb, because for me turning down girls I don't want to have sex with is just as important as getting my d1ck wet.

Ehhh... may be in 20 years we will all look back and say "Wow, I should have fukked around more"

Or look back and say "I should have done it less, now I have 3 kids, 2 ex wives and no money"

 

[Quiksilver]

Oh no! A traditionalist uprising.

 

[Raikojo17]

Why is it silly? Isn't companionship a major part of life? What's wrong with being happy with a woman or women as the case maybe?

true, true. i agree with the post. we r not dogs, we r humans. we dont jus have to go around sexin all the time. but still, even some animals only mate with one partner for the rest of their lives. and woman should be a focus in life if there in it, u think husbands jus dont care about there wives? hell no, they're like the most important things in there lives. but, i u guys go around f*cking all the time, isnt that a major focus in ur life? u guys totally contradicted urselves on that one.

 

[Thomas94305]

A man owns his sexuality. He decides when and how he uses it. Sexuality does not own the man.

Good post, Babnik.